How to establish an intimate relationship after childbirth


The long-awaited moment has come - you have become a mother! There are already three of you, and perhaps more ... Now a new member of the family has appeared - such a small, pretty, long-awaited and demanding attention to his person. Despite the fact that you are tired after the birth, you need to wedge into your new role and not forget about your beloved and loving husband ...

I think that not all future parents think about the sexual life with the appearance of the baby, but in vain ... It is necessary at least to prepare morally for this period in advance. On how to establish an intimate relationship after childbirth, this article will tell you. It is desirable, of course, that you "meet" with it before you run into problems.

After giving birth, a woman changes psychologically, now her love and attention are focused on a small crumb, but do not forget about the beloved man. For recovery, you will need 6-8 weeks, regardless of whether you gave birth or by caesarean section. This period is desirable to withstand. First, there is a recovery of the uterus and vagina after childbirth, and, secondly, there will be time to adapt to new conditions. Do not hurry! After all, premature sexual relations can lead to pain and inflammatory processes. Therefore, it is necessary to stipulate in advance the timing of abstinence with the husband, so that it is not new and unexpected for him. Nevertheless, I do not recommend my feelings limited only to platonic love. Romantic relationship, oral sex - this is what you need now! You will say: "When?" Yes, whenever you want! The main thing is the desire to strengthen and develop your feelings and relationships. And even if you are tired, you can find time to hug and kiss.

First sex after childbirth

The first sex after childbirth is similar to the first sexual intimacy. You do not know how everything will be. And if seams are applied due to ruptures or episiotomy (cut of the perineum), then fears are even greater. Therefore, just like the first time, there should be more tenderness and affection. The husband should refrain from the violent impulses of his passion and show as much sensuality as possible.

Possible problems

The main problem that most women face in the postpartum period is the dryness of the vagina. This is explained, firstly, by a change in the hormonal background (the absence of estrogens), and secondly, by fatigue.

It's not so difficult to cope with all this. Now sold a lot of intimate gels, lubricants, not only in sex shops, but also in pharmacies and supermarkets. Therefore, I think it's worth buying such a "trick" or ordering a husband for himself a sort of "gift".

Home affairs should be distributed. Let, if possible, your husband helps you, and you should not refuse the offered help from relatives. Sleeps a crumb - sleep and you, because a nursing mother needs a lot of rest. Already the modern world to us has considerably facilitated a role of mum. Disposable diapers, washing machines significantly reduce household chores.

Love yourself!

The frequent problem of intimate relations in the postpartum period is the woman's displeasure with her appearance: extra pounds, big breasts, stretch marks ... I will note that this is not so much not satisfied with husbands as does not suit the woman herself. You need to love yourself for who you are!

In addition, do not forget to watch yourself to continue to feel not only a mother, but also a woman. Pamper yourself once a week with a facial mask, do your hair, do depilation, make a beautiful make-up, in the end feel like a woman - desired, beautiful, beloved.

From own experience

On the birthday of my long-awaited daughter, I was surrounded by the love and attention of my husband. That day we felt an incredible desire for intimacy ... Not for nothing they say: "The forbidden fruit is sweet." After discharge from the maternity hospital, a cycle of cares began, the desire for sex did not come. Nevertheless, we did not forget to pay attention to each other's husbands: kisses, caresses - everything was.

And now the long-awaited moment has come! That day, I did not get satisfaction. The reason for everything were, first of all, the fears and dryness of the vagina. Despite everything, we coped with the problem! Lubricants, erotic films, fragrant perfume, our love came to the rescue.

The process of establishing intimate relationships after childbirth took us about four months (of which 8 weeks were "postpartum abstinence"). I will say one thing, there is nothing impossible if you really want it!

Sex as a fight against postpartum depression

One of the signs of postpartum depression psychologists distinguish precisely the lack of desire for sexual intimacy. According to statistics, more than 40% of women experience difficulties in intimate relationships three months after childbirth and about 18% face similar problems for about a year. And only a small percentage of women experience pleasure from the first attempts.

Learn to relax. Calm mom, happy parents - the guarantee of the peace of the child. Spend a few minutes a day for relaxation, listening to pleasant and relaxing music. This will help you to relax easier from the touch of her husband.

Be strong! After all, you gave birth to the coveted and beloved child - the result of your love. Is this something that compares? Are not the difficulties that you are experiencing? Especially time flies quickly, and with each month it will be easier, and easier. Forget pain, heal seams, baby will grow and sleep better. And do not be upset after another failure. This is just the case, when not all at once, but all with each time.

The nature of the woman-mother was rewarded with potential energy, mobilizing which it is possible to turn mountains. I know for sure!