To give birth together with her husband is quite fashionable today, but despite this, not every maternity home welcomes such an initiative of the spouse. Although, in most cases, the problem can be solved by transferring a small fee to the doctor. So, your husband is ready to be present near you at such a crucial moment, all formalities are settled, but older relatives and some acquaintances are not delighted with your idea. What should I do and what should I do? In order for you to have weighty arguments in your defense, we will also describe the benefits of partner births. And for the sake of justice, let's talk about the shortcomings. Having weighed the pros and cons, you can independently understand whether the right decision was made with your husband.
Pros of the joint birth
- Many rightfully believe that a man who saw how his child appears on the light, much sooner begins to feel like a father. Especially touching is the young dad, who was entrusted with cutting the umbilical cord. Just imagine the emotions that are usually felt by the strong-sexes who are mean to the feelings when they receive a bundle on their hands, which a few minutes ago they were weighed and examined by the doctors. Now the pope had the opportunity for the first time to be alone with his creation.
- A husband who is present at birth can not only provide moral support. Often, during labor, you need to massage your lower back, pat your wife, call in time a midwife or an anesthesiologist. Naturally, emotional support plays an important role.
- Many women panically fear birth, and the closer the coveted date, the less they want to go to the hospital. Once you get there and find yourself in an unknown place, and even in such a piquant position, you can even get lost or get completely unstuck. Here the husband will be very welcome, because who as not the closest person is able to support in difficult times. During fights and breaks between them, the husband can distract your loved one by talking, reading a book or magazine, helping you move around the ward. A man can also be an outlet in a stressful situation, so do not get upset if the woman giving birth is screaming.
- Many men believe that if a child was conceived by both spouses, then both should be present when he comes into the world. Moreover, the spouse most often with pride tells relatives and friends that he was not just present at birth, but actively participated in the process itself.
- Unfortunately, in our maternity hospitals there is still a negligent attitude to the women in labor, and the presence of the husband will keep them in good shape. In addition, the man will be able to control all the actions of midwives, nurses, anesthesiologists, because a woman at this moment is busy with what happens to her body and to observe everything happening around her, she simply does not have the strength and ability.
Cons of joint births
Despite the joyful expectations from partner births, some couples are disappointed in the joint participation in the birth of their mummy. And even if your spouse expressed a desire to be present at such an important event, it is still worth exploring the disadvantages of joint births.
- Childbirth is a seemingly unattractive process, because even if everything goes as planned by nature, think about whether your husband is ready to see the blood, tears and manipulations that the doctors will be carrying out with you.
- It is believed that a woman should be a mystery and only in this case the spouse will be interesting to her second half. Perhaps, childbirth is the secret, which is hardly to reveal the veil in front of a man.
- In many men, the psyche is not as strong as it might seem at first glance. And if the husband, who has read all about the process of delivery in the books, believes that he is completely ready to be present in the prenatal ward and the delivery room, one should cool his ardor. Otherwise, there may be a situation in which a woman not only does not have to expect help from her husband, but she will be forced to be distracted in order to make sure that everything is in order. Such husbands are hindered also to doctors who instead of helping to appear in the light of a new life, look after that the man did not faint and did not break his head about tile. It is often possible to observe the situation when a nurse with a cotton wool moistened with ammonia is put to her husband. On the one hand, it's funny, but there's no time to think about entertainment at such a crucial moment or giving birth to a woman, or doctors.
- Not every woman can relax in the presence of other people, let it even be a beloved husband. Having been left alone under the supervision of doctors, they clearly perform all the commands, focusing on their feelings. The presence of the man in such a case only distracts.
- Previously, it was widely believed that a man who was present at the birth of his wife, is cooling her sexually. True or not, only each specific pair that has survived the whole process of the baby's birth can solve it.
In any case it is important to understand that the presence of the husband of nature is his own decision and if he refuses to be with you at this time, it is worth trying to understand the reasons and listen to his arguments. It often happens that a man for some reason missed the birth of the firstborn, but she certainly wants to see how his second child is born. There are also opposite situations: the husband was so shocked by what he saw during the first birth of his wife, that to be with her at the time of the birth of the second child, she refuses. And here the woman will have to accept her husband as he is.