Age difference: A man older than

What if the girl is worried about the fact that between herself and her beloved person is the age difference, the man is older? In fact, this problem is not so serious as, for example, the one when a woman is much older than a man. Here in this situation there can be unpleasant moments due to the fact that the society always tries to get into someone else's life and condemn something that at least slightly transcends the adopted. But to the situation where the age difference, a man older, everyone has long been accustomed to. It's no secret that girls were often given in marriage for people who were older by ten, twenty, thirty, or even forty years. Unfortunately, most of these marriages were not for love, but for calculation, in order to strengthen ties, get a title or financial well-being. But to the very fact of such unequal marriages, people have become accustomed to long ago. Of course, in this case, too, there may be some problems and disagreements that arise from a misunderstanding on the part of the girl's parents, and also because of the divergence of views in the pair itself.

First, let's talk about how great the difference in age and how old the girl is. Because, of course, we can say that love is subject to any age, but, in fact, there are cases that are really unacceptable. For example, such stories can be attributed to those when a girl is a fourteen-year-old teenager, and a man is already far beyond thirty. It is unlikely that a story like the stories of Nabokov's Lolita can be called normal. Agree on what can be common between such a man and, in fact, a child. If people love each other and build relationships, then they must necessarily have common interests. And in this case, there can be no question of any interests. Think about yourself, what can you think about at the age of fourteen. Most likely, about what the school is tired of and how to get good grades, about girlfriends and friends, discos and that parents do not understand you at all. A forty-year-old man, in turn, about what he thinks? He thinks about business, quiet evenings at home, about beer and fishing with friends. Therefore, such a relationship in any case can not be called love and greet them. Perhaps the girl is really in love, because there are men who look good in forty, watch themselves and know how to be interested. Moreover, women often like guys who are older, because they seem more wise and experienced. This, often, is the truth, but not in this case. Because a man just wants to have fun, remember youth. Perhaps he himself has a wife and children. Simply, he was tired of the same woman, or just wanted to say "young wine".

A young girl in such a man is often of sexual interest. Therefore, she quickly gets bored with him, and he simply disappears, and the girl will cry for a long time and experience her first love trauma, which, in spite of her age, will not be childish at all. Therefore, it is precisely these relationships that must be avoided, and if you see that a sister, girlfriend or daughter has fallen into this situation, you need to do everything. To stop this relationship. Even if the girl will resist and shout that she hates you, understand that now she is still too young and in love. Over time, the girl grows up, understands everything and will certainly thank you for saving her in due time from unhealthy relationships.

But, there are other situations where the age difference does not play a special role, the more negative. For example, if a girl is nineteen, and a guy is twenty-nine, this difference can not always be considered great. We all know that girls grow up before, and men become wiser later. Therefore, we can assume that in fact, there are three to four years between them. In addition, if a guy has the same hobbies and interests, then there is no question of age difference at all. If they both lead a lively lifestyle, for example, like to travel, have an extreme time and the like, then, often, they both look young and only those who know them very well can distinguish the age difference. Of course, sometimes a girl can have something childish, but if she is smart, adequate and not inclined to make hysterics for any reason, it is quite tolerant and almost imperceptible. In pairs, where both are more than eighteen and less than thirty, there are rarely any special disagreements. In this case, both the guy and the girl are representatives of almost the same generation, with the same education, views on life, interests, problems and general memories of life, childhood and so on. Therefore, it is much easier for them to find a common language, understand each other, accept problems that can excite the other half and act in a way that will help them, rather than aggravate the situation.

Of course, it is more difficult for couples where the girl is under thirty, and the man is already about forty. There just might be a conflict of interest. In addition, her parents can protest against such relations and marriage. But, with this problem you can figure out if both the man and the woman behave correctly. The girl should not be angry with her parents, scream and leave the house. The best way is to get to know your beloved. The lady must present the gentleman to her family so that they can talk and understand that he is a worthy candidate. And the fact that he is older is only a plus, since such a man is more wise, reliable and, moreover, stronger on his feet in the material plan.

The difference in age, a man older, should not become a problem for those who love each other and are willing to compromise. Of course, people from different generations do not always understand each other, but if this love is real, you can always try to understand the problem, make the right conclusions and compromise. In this case, a man and a woman can simply agree that some things will be dealt with separately. For example, a man will play golf, and a woman will go to a nightclub. The main thing is that it does not alienate them and does not violate trust. If both know that even apart they love each other and will always be true, then their relationship will become strong and lasting.