He is interested
What does it look like? The Kid is focused, looks intently and enthusiastically at something (usually an object). He lowers and raises his eyebrows, his mouth is slightly ajar, he can look from the subject he is looking at, to something else, but again comes back to him. What to do? Of course, for you to play the rattle is not too interesting, but for the kid it will be something extraordinary. Expand its possibilities - let it touch something new and play it if it's safe. Encourage his interest in new experiences and experiences, comment on everything that happens, even if you remind a sports commentator: "This is a new rattle, it thunders when I knock like this. Let's take it in the handle and wave it. " Studying the world together with you speeds up the development of the child's brain. When a kid not only points to a toy, but reaches out to it, it is the need to get more information, which means that a period of active cognition begins.
He is upset
What does it look like? The corners of the mouth are lowered, both eyebrows are arched with a "house" and are frowning, the chin trembling, perhaps already a whine is heard. These signals indicate that the baby is upset and, possibly, overexcited, so that if you do not react, you will receive screams and inconsolable crying. What to do? Ensure peace and quiet. A large number of impressions, a long walk or too active relatives - all this can cause tears and anxiety. To begin with, just take it in your arms and face it gently and press it gently to your chest - the soft rhythmic rocking, light massage and mother's society will help the child to calm down.
He misses
What does it look like? He needs attention: he whines, groans, screams and whimpers, throws toys on the floor. Smiling and laughing, if you pay attention to it or pick up an ejected toy from the floor. What to do? It's great that the kid asks for your attention: it means that there is a strong connection between you. As the brain develops, the child's need for new ways of stimulation increases. If at 3 months the child can still spend hours just looking at your face or drawing on a towel, then in a couple of months it will take a much larger amount of something more interesting. Offer him something simple, but allows you to play in many ways. One and the same rattle can bend, sound or "run away" from the baby on the bed, and a bright handkerchief be a ball, "fly" or just suck. Sing a familiar song - but change its rhythm, speed of performance and voice intonation, add new words. You do not have to be the only source of entertainment - a kid already from 4 months needs free time to just study what he sees around.
He's mad
What does it look like? The baby's face is red, tense, his eyes are half-closed, he cries loudly and desperately and refuses to contact-he repels you or even beats you.
What to do? Emotions of children are still very simple, their brains are not yet developed for complex definitions, such as, for example, jealousy or shame. If you are sure that the baby does not hurt, he does not have a cold, his nose is not laid, perhaps he is angry because he is hungry or tired of impressions. Then the simplest ways will help: feed, hug and help fall asleep. Calm the baby - and in no case do not scream yourself, even if very excited. Stroke it, gently shake it, whisper something pacifying: even a simple "sh-sh-sh ..." or "shh, all right" will be enough. Just do not start up 8 long arguments like - Vanya, probably, hungry, now mom will think something.
Mom, I'm looking at you!
The kid is carefully studying your face for a reason - so he studies the world. Contribute to this! Your behavior directly affects its development. Here are ways to make it more effective. "Eyes to eyes". Eye contact is the most important element of communication and mutual understanding between mother and baby. Do not hide your eyes, more often let the child look at you for a long time. "We are brave."
The kid unwittingly copies your facial expression. Before entering with him to a new place or for the first time to meet a nanny, it is most plausible to depict on the face courage and inspiration. He will repeat for you - and copying your "optimism" will drive out his possible fear.
"What is it?"
Speak your emotions. Play with the child: wriggle him different faces and tell me what kind of expression. Show joy, sadness, laughter or fear and comment: "Mom laughs", "Mom is happy", "Mom is crying". The sooner you begin to teach the baby, the faster he will start to recognize the emotions himself with this can be done, "act quickly and calmly.
He is afraid
What does it look like? The eyes are wide open, the look is motionless, the handles and chin can tremble a little. Perhaps the baby froze and did not move, or maybe already inconsolably crying. What to do? He is too small to calm down on his own, and besides, he can not yet determine what exactly scared him. The usual car signal sounds like background noise for you - because you know it's the car's signal, and the child who first heard it can panic. Take the baby in your arms and explain what exactly happened what scared him. Even if he does not understand your words, your calm voice will tell him that everything is fine.
He feels uncomfortable
What does it look like? The child cries, crying often begins suddenly, the face is red, strained, the legs are actively moving and pressing the belly. What to do? This picture is typical for colic - painful cramps in the abdomen. Gentle massage of the tummy, exercise "bicycle" helps to the release of gases. The pain of colic decreases from exposure to heat - you can put a diaper on the baby's belly, ironed with a hot iron, shake it in a sling or just vilify on your hands, pressing to yourself or putting your belly on your shoulder. If half an hour after the measures taken the baby does not get better and the crying intensifies - it is better to consult a doctor.
He rejoices
What does it look like? On the face of the baby is a wide, happy (and very contagious!) Smile. He actively waves his arms and legs, mutters something, the intonations of "conversation" tend to go up. What to do? Watch and enjoy the wonderful spectacle. Support the good mood of the baby, smile in response, slow it down - this will give him confidence and will increase the desire to share with you joy. He likes to see that his smile gets such a positive response. At the age of about 8-9 months the child acquires a feeling of immutability of objects, that is, he understands that the object exists even if he does not see it at the moment. This is the most suitable time to start playing with the baby in the "ku-ku". You can hide yourself, or you can hide toys. Such games will very much amuse the little one. This is also a great way to reassure the baby if he is crying inconsolably.