About affection and solutions. Many parents of sons are convinced that they need to be educated in austerity, to hug and kiss less. However, for a successful emotional and even mental development of the boy, hugs and kisses are decisive. A small son needs to be caressed, cuddled and pityed. And the matured child continues to need bodily contact. Although with age, he changes a little - this is a friendly tap on the shoulder, a playful fight with the father and stroking the head. Thus, the boy himself learns to show love and sympathy, and therefore, begins to match your main desire - the education of a true knight. Another important point is independence. Teaching the boy to dress, brush his teeth and clean his bed, we help him grow up. We really want the child, as much as possible, to have useful skills.
This makes our life much easier. But we still need the son not to be capricious, not stubborn, but obedient. Well, as a result, as a rule, you get a comfortable, pleasant and obedient child. But to make the son happy and successful, this is not enough. We know how many difficulties and problems an adult life brings to us and we must teach the child to make independent decisions. That is why, first of all, you must give your son to show his independence. And so that your main desire will come true, you need to teach him to meditate, to assess the feelings of people and their own actions. Give your son more freedom and let him make mistakes, learn from mistakes. So he is brought up by a real knight.
About unnecessary tears. "Real men do not cry!" - Forget this phrase forever. It can not be considered that men's tears are a spiritual weakness. It is dangerous to suppress emotions and emotions. Just teach the baby to show their feelings do not show and do not encourage hysterics. If your son has cut a finger or fell down, but did not cry, say: "You are a real man!" May the father always be for the son of authority! So do not call your husband a pathetic loser!
On the power. To bring up a real knight, you need to explain to the child that he must become strong and confident. Is it possible for someone with fists to climb onto a man who with his whole appearance shows that he will not let himself be offended? And how to recognize such a person? Only if he has inner self-confidence. The other will always recognize it and think a hundred times before striking. Power is internal control, it is goodwill towards the world, not aggression and not hostility.
A little about care. Support any initiative of the child to help you, do not measles and do not blame, even if something does not work out for him. Create situations in which your young son can manifest himself as a representative of the stronger sex. Tell him stories about the little men who wear portfolios for girls, give way to transport and generally behave like knights in general! And if the son behaves the way you teach, then your main desire is to bring up a real knight!