Feelings of rejection from oneself appear when a person begins to feel that he does not get anything, and he can not change it. Also, this feeling can arise when a person in some situations does the wrong thing, but does not know the right decision. In such cases, a person is displeased with himself, although he does not understand the cause of his discontent.
If a person has an intention to understand himself, he has already made a step toward changing his attitude to himself. But you need to understand yourself correctly. How do you usually parse yourself? They read special literature, they look for their own kind. All these actions need to be taken as a natural process in a person's life, for example, eating or breathing. A person should set for himself only real and not global goals. After all, after achieving one goal, another appears, which you also want to achieve. A person's life should be comfortable and calm. All processes should be aimed at obtaining satisfaction from the process of life. But people who are prone to perfectionism, constantly torment themselves with unattainable goals, as well as their ideal implementation. They are obsessed with not hitting the face in the mud. Such people must be perfect, they will make the same demands to others.
Although, if you look around, there is nothing ideal in the world. Ideal people come up with themselves. So the fuss begins. Some, in order to achieve perfection, do everything possible and not possible, torture themselves, scold, and call themselves all kinds of words. When a person realizes that he is not perfect, he comes to the conclusion that he can not love and accept himself. More often than not such people amuse themselves with the fact that love will come to perfection. They do not understand that self-love does not add to it any positive characteristics. Love for yourself can only be compared with the mother's love for her child. Mom loves a child not for something, but for the fact that she has it. In this case, it should not be important what you are, how much you weigh, how you look or how successful in this life.
It does not matter whether a person has a partner. If a person sets himself ideal goals and is always dissatisfied with himself, this will not help him become perfection. In addition, it does not lift him in the eyes of others and in his eyes. To achieve something, you must carefully listen to your desires and reality. Do not avoid the negative. Love, you can completely accept yourself. But first the person must realize what he wants. He must also trust himself and others. In turn, how can a person trust himself and others if he does not have love?
However, very few people like themselves. But if this happens, a person urgently needs a doctor. Hence, he is in severe depression. In this case, the services of a psychologist will not even help him. Because depression is usually treated in a combination of medications with psychotherapy. What lies beneath the words "I do not like myself"? This is, first of all, a call addressed to others around people. The man almost begs the most dear to him people about being pitied and loved.
By the way, most women express such words as "to love and accept themselves" or "to understand oneself." These words women use to achieve opportunities that help them to get more pleasure from life. Although the female power is that it is not afraid to show its weaknesses. If she is uncomfortable, she will definitely try to change something in her life, as well as her own state in a positive way. Naturally, much in this process depends on the person. But women are quicker than men to recognize their weaknesses, and to solve all problems in order to achieve their goal. It is these qualities that the woman turns into her favor, and becomes stronger. You need to love and accept yourself not by fighting against yourself, but simply by finding in your own resources and strengths in yourself. These facets and help to achieve a person to achieve their goal, i.e. to accept, understand and understand themselves.
It is important to remember that the main reason for failures, conflicts and bad mood is a person's dislike for himself. This state is expressed in many respects, for example, rejection of oneself and one's body, comparison of oneself with others, dissatisfaction with one's character, etc. A person often scolds himself and others, and this can not be done. Because the mood and inner state of a person is reflected not by his appearance. In addition, being in a negative state and a bad mood, you can attract only bad. Such a person will be surrounded only by such people. It's time to open a club of dissatisfied subjects.
It has long been noted that if a person regularly praises himself, he sends himself positive positive thoughts. In his life, much begins to change, and for the better. Also, psychologists recommend doing special training. This is a series of exercises that are unequivocally called "Praiseworthy words to yourself," Praising words to others "and" Praise from Others. " In addition, it will be necessary to analyze and then resolve the negative case. For this, there is a special psychological exercise called "Transformation of images", which consists of the following stages: the definition of the problem, the creation of the image, the transformation of the image and the verification of the results. However, such exercises should be performed with the help of a specialist. An experienced psychotherapist will help in identifying the problem and working out the right actions.
There are also a number of general provisions, for example, to be benevolent, to relax more often. We need to take care of ourselves, to observe the correct regime of the day and nutrition. Use any systems for the accumulation of positive energy. Of course, every day to go for walks or jogging in the fresh air from 30 minutes to one hour.