But these same "children and grandchildren" quite calmly react to the concept of "civil marriage" and prefer this type of union to official relations, fixed by a stamp in the passport, more often.
The reasons that encourage young people not to bind themselves with legal ties are different. Men are apriori freedom - loving natures, who do not want to burden themselves with any obligations. Even if they are going to fulfill these obligations, it is easier for them to carry out without any formal coercion.
Women are more and more difficult. A rare woman sets a basic condition for the initial relationship of a legal marriage, because then she can easily lose a loved one who categorically does not agree to it.
The positive attitude of women to a civil marriage is affected by their repeated marriage. Sometimes the bad experience of "legal relations" suggests that it is much safer and easier to live with a loved one without obligations. In addition, this makes the relationship between a man and a woman more trepid and conscious, because every time there are fears that one of them will just take and leave. And even if it leaves, then there is a plus - there will not be all this red tape that accompanies divorce proceedings.
It is impossible not to mention the so-called emancipated women. They have long ceased to perform all the functions that women are called upon to perform in marriage. They are independent, dispose of themselves, their finances and time at their own discretion and do not need a man-earner, who was previously traditionally considered the head of the family and the breadwinner. And although such women also want a strong and caring man next to them, marriage in their opinion is a formality that brings unnecessary trouble, because they are not going to give up work, their way of life and even the child will not change this situation.
A huge number of women who prefer free relations are representatives of a well-off stratum of the population, the so-called elite. Being born financially independent, possessing all the benefits of civilization, women of this category often do not want to limit their freedom. Discarding the fundamental reason for the majority of marriages, namely the financial one, they place the relationship of love itself at the heart of the relationship.
Strange as it may seem, it is customary in low-income groups to legitimize relations and it is among such women that the percentage of single mothers is the highest. First of all, this is due to the fact that most of them see their purpose in creating a family, in marriage. But not with all men are strong families. After the weddings are played and all the money is spent, a moment of truth comes - everyday problems, of which, as is known, many love boats have broken.
So, education in strict conservative traditions, the desire to keep a wealthy man or the idea of a future child, who is entitled to "guaranteed by law" means all this explains the negative attitude of women towards a civil marriage, during which a break may well occur. Such women look far into the future, insuring against possible financial troubles. But as practice shows, official marriage is not a guarantee of successful and, most importantly, long-term relationships. Much depends on the men and women themselves and on their vision of themselves in the structure of society. The attitude of women is understandable - they are most often under the spotlight of insecurity and moral condemnation, as married couples are still considered exemplary in our society, and women who do not have children are sympathetic.