Problems with the head of contemporaries much more than with appearance
Look at your hands. In reality, your fingers are longer than you think, and the brushes are thinner. These are the quirks of our brain: the model of our own body is distorted in it. It is approximately two-thirds larger and one-third shorter than in reality. And seeming short fingers - the most innocuous stereotype about his own appearance. The most fashionable disease of our time can be considered dysmorphophobia - inadequate perception of the body with its subsequent rejection. One of the branches is anorexia nervosa. Having reached the extreme degree of exhaustion, when not only fat remains in the body, but also muscles, water and everything, without which the body can not work properly, the imponderable young lady sincerely considers herself fat. Looking in the mirror, she sees not a skinny girl, but a self-feeder with folds on her stomach. Another popular manifestation of dysmorphophobia is a passion for reshaping the face and body. No, not adequate care for themselves, but a fanatical alteration, a constant, systematic, which never ends, because there is no limit to perfection. The main thing is to erase your features, to mold new ones, not like they were. After all, with such an imperfect exterior of life there.
Dysmorphophobia is associated with the rejection of the present. The reason often lies in a deep psychological trauma. Ways of its application - not to count, and many - come from childhood. For example, ridicule due to excess weight, a long nose or protruding ears, which made the child unhappy. As a result, a strong association arises: pain, trouble - full body / protruding ears. Hence, the "wrong" shell is to blame for everything - it is bad, it needs to be remade. Often parents help too. After all, exactly what the child feels and sees in relation to himself on their part, forms his self-esteem. Sometimes parents value a child only for his achievements (smart, beautiful, best); If the success is not obvious, the offspring simply does not notice (at best) or is constantly reproached. "Then the child takes for himself the idea that his only value is his achievements and his appearance. If it turns out that in this respect he is mediocrity, he is not able to love himself. Just does not understand: how is it? After all, because he simply is (plump, with a big nose and bad grades in the school), no one likes him. " "There is nothing more delicious than your own thinness" This phrase of the model world icon of Kate Moss has become fatal for many young and uncertain. After all, even if everything is in order with a close environment, and no one for completeness or a nose, does not tease the potato, "society" comes to "help". Its parameters and standards resemble the formula: success = beauty. The latter is not a relative concept. Therefore, after watching the next society chronicle, the girl decides: if I am the same (skinny / with a straight nose / in shoes from Lubuten), then there will be happiness for me, love, success. If suddenly a piece of glossy puzzle falls out - all life is a waste. The fact that the object from the image is not attractive to the nature, but to the photographer and designer, is somehow missed. As well as the fact that most modern standards of beauty are abnormal and have nothing to do with the source of true beauty - they do not have health. However, it is not surprising - to introduce fashion into the natural outlines of the body and the manifestation of age is economically unprofitable. Who then will buy diet pills, spend money on massage, personal trainers, injections, creams and surgeries? So there is the illusion that fragility, weightlessness and eternal youth are somewhere near - just stretch out your hands and pay: a nutritionist, a coach, a plastic surgeon.
Today we think more about what the body looks like, and not about what opportunities it gives. The current obsession with the appearance and the all-absorbing business structure of the so-called "healthy" lifestyle, which, in theory, should provide the desired beauty, that a person loses touch with himself, ceases to feel true needs, to distinguish between his own "good" and "bad." But it is with the identification of oneself that the path to its true beauty begins. "Gestalt therapy accepts the thesis that I am my body. That is - you need to take care of yourself. If the formulation is different - I care about my body, then it becomes a separate object, a kind of mechanism. It turns out that it worked, you need to do this and that. In fact, everyone needs not soulless maintenance, but love. " To get prettier, you need to reconnect with your body and love it. Give him what he needs, not what's fashionable. The psychologist Didkovskaya is convinced: "To determine the true desires and needs, it is often necessary to ask yourself the question:" What do I really want? After all, we are all different and everyone has some simple signs that identify the comfort zone: warm or cold, tasty or tasteless, I want to come or move. The only important thing is whether it suits you personally or not. "
After all, despite the prohibitions to use unnecessarily thin models in the shows, to use photoshop in advertising anti-aging products, the fashion for bodilessness and unrealistically smooth skin is still relevant. The indignation of some actresses who dared to appear on the covers of magazines without photoshop is a drop in the ocean. One thing remains - to understand that the ultimate thinness and lack of wrinkles in 60 years is the lot of models and actresses. The body for them is an instrument. They can change it and reshape - they get paid for it, and considerable. The rest is to abandon the standard. The main tips about the appearance should not be numbers and parameters, but your own feelings. If the contours of the body swam, there is shortness of breath, or, conversely, excessive leanness leads to dizziness - there is reason to think about changing the way of life. Nobody says that you need to diligently increase fat, switch to food by "junk food", forget about the existence of fresh air, movement, cosmetologists and fashionable clothes. It is harmful to the psyche, health and self-esteem. Simply from all proposals it is worth choosing what is good, pleasant and acceptable personally for yourself. We always have a choice. Choose a comfortable weight and how to maintain it. Choose the level and type of exercise that is enjoyable. Choose the color and length of hair, shade of shades and lipstick, style of clothes. Create your personal natural and friendly standard of beauty for you. Pick it up the way an ideal pair of shoes is chosen: beautiful, but comfortable, which does not feel on your feet, but it helps you to go through life more easily.
It too!
The world of beauty breeds its diseases. And this is not just anorexia ...
• Sharon Stone Syndrome - obsession with fitness training. His victims spend most of the time in the hall, doing exhausting workouts that undermine their health.
• Tanorexia is a pathological passion for sunbathing. It does not matter - in the sun or in the solarium. Fans of chocolate skin do not notice its dryness and wilting. For them, the main thing is to darken at any cost.
• Michael Jackson's syndrome affects people who, through plasticity, try to either change themselves beyond recognition, or become like a chosen object (usually a celebrity).
• Dorian Gray Syndrome is a panic fear of aging and doing everything possible and impossible to erase from the face and body any signs of natural wilting.
• Barbie doll syndrome - a maniacal addiction to viewing glossy magazines, fashion shows, reporting on the life of celebrities, followed by a depression from the realization of a mismatch ideal glossy beauty.