To deal with this problem, you must first understand: who is he - a real man? For a guy and a girl, these concepts can be quite strikingly different. And it is very difficult to make a man change the attitude to this concept. It's easier to get the guy to pretend that he agreed, rather than get him to really rethink everything. But, if it is so important for you to force a young man to prove that he is worthy of being a "real man", then let's try to understand what this concept means for you.
Every man sees the meaning of life in his own way. Since childhood, he understands that a real man is someone who is better than his friends. And it's hard for a young man to prove otherwise. Making a young man believe in something else is not a problem of the lungs. In adolescence, this is practically not realistic. But over time, the guy still changes concepts and values, although, in the main, the motivations inherent in his childhood and views continue to play the leading role in his behavior. That's why many girls are extremely interested in how to get the guys to prove that they are real men, in the women's, and not in the male sense?
So, what is important for any guy? What does he deserve respect in the men's company? What proves that he is a real man? Of course, in the first place - this is the ability to restrain feelings, solve problems with the help of a fist, scowl women and lie. Yes, it's amazing, but many men constantly praise each other for the ability to correctly lie to women to get out of the situation. . the most interesting is that many of them do not consider this quality really positive, but are afraid to admit to each other, thereby continuing to play such a farce.
Naturally, for a woman, "realness" manifests itself in another. You can say. Even in the opposite. A real man has the strength to speak the truth, he can protect. But initially will try to settle everything with a word, respects his woman enough not to flirt with other ladies to the right and to the left, and, most importantly, does not depend on the opinions of friends, crowds and society as a whole. This is what we want to see in our men, but, unfortunately, we get the very opposite. Of course, many girls think that their guys are a bad company. Of course, sometimes this is really the problem, but not always. But in fact, a young man can have real reliable friends. Simply, for many years, they drove each other into the head that it is necessary to behave in this way, and, now, can not get rid of bad habits. Therefore, no one should blame. You just need to make sure that the man with you is the knight you dreamed of as a child. By the way, never pay attention to what the guys say in the men's company. Firstly, we also discuss them, and not always, with flattering words. But we do love. Also young people. In addition, they just used to show each other that feelings will never own them completely.
In order for your young man to understand what you want from him, you just have to talk frankly. Explain to him what kind of behavior you dislike, and how would you like him to act in this or that situation. Just do not force the guy to do something. This will not lead to anything good, but only causes a negative reaction. Nobody likes to be told and forced and always, consciously or subconsciously, trying to fight back.
A real man is someone who knows how to protect, protect and provide. What does your boyfriend do? Now do not pay attention to the fact that he can be rude or chuckle at you in the company of friends, unless, of course, it does not go beyond the scope. Real men never humiliate women, no matter what the circumstances may be. But still, not now. So, do you feel comfortable when walking with your boyfriend through dark alleys? If you ask him for help, does he agree? If he answers, does he remember that he made a promise and necessarily performs it? Does he have any ambitions and is he trying to achieve something in life? Does he try to notice what you like, and what do you dream about, and then make small pleasant surprises? Do you feel comfortable with him?
If you answered positively to these questions, it means that next to you is already a real man and he does not need to prove anything. Understand that a fairy tale is very different from real life. Therefore, it is not necessary for a young man to save you from the clutches of a dragon and sing under the window serenades to prove that he is a real man worthy of your heart. But, of course, if he also sings serenades - it means that your young man generally does not have a price.
If you understand that you can not answer many of these questions affirmatively, then you need to try to solve this problem together with your young man. Quietly talk to him, discuss those points that you do not like in his behavior and try to explain that you would like to see a slightly different attitude towards yourself. If a young man really loves you and is not a spineless rag, he will prove to you that he is a real man. And not a word or a show, but in those situations when it is necessary. Otherwise - decide for yourself whether you need such a young man, or it is worth looking for someone who more suits the category of "knight".