How to make a good impression on your mother-in-law?
Preparation for a meeting with the future mother-in-law will require considerable mental and emotional efforts. The main thing - do not be afraid. If initially your mood is negative, then nothing will come of it. Hope that you are building a situation with an adequate and normal person, not with his mother. After all, in the future you will not live with your mother-in-law, but with him.
Think about your appearance, and this is starting with clothing, shoes and finishing with manicure. You do not know what you can afford to choose clothes, so insure yourself. Your appearance should be elegant and unobtrusive. And in this matter you need to listen to the opinion of the partner. So that he does not try to tell you about his mother, this is only his subjective opinion, and it is erroneous.
Make-up should not be defiant. A little underline your eyes, and that will be enough. The way your future mother-in-law will see in you a feminine refinement, not debauchery. A person needs to be given time to get used to you. And only then in the future you will allow yourself much more in behavior, and in make-up, and in clothes.
As for shoes, you need to choose a different and comfortable, which will allow you to remain relaxed and relaxed. Never wear brand-new shoes. An hour later, you can not remove the suffering expression from your face. What can be misinterpreted by the interlocutors.
Your companion should look like your style accordingly. You are already a couple, and must choose clothes together. Mom in her son always sees a gorgeous man. And when he comes to the meeting in his beloved, but worn T-shirt, you will remain guilty, that did not affect his decision. And it is not known what thoughts will appear in her head in this situation. At least, make sure that his clothes and hairstyle are neat.
First meeting
And finally, there comes a time when you met this appraising look of your future mother-in-law. Do not be afraid, remember politeness. Say hello, smile and look into her eyes. Try to impress your mother-in-law. Make a measured and thoughtful compliment. Do not look away, otherwise your mother-in-law will decide that you can manage, and only then you will receive valuable guidance on family life with her son. She needs to be made to understand that you will say "on equal terms". Do not allow a condescending and condescending tone to sound from her side. But you do not take an offensive and defensive position. Do not impose your point of view, this has not been successful. But here impression of the impudent and impudent little girl will be remembered for a long time.
You should pay attention to your speech and voice, it should be measured and calm. You can practice in advance, you can remove yourself the day before the meeting, and then with your friend to analyze what you saw. A friend will objectively evaluate your behavior and point out mistakes that you will not be able to see. On the record, look at the presumed position, voice, gestures, facial expressions. Think about your strengths and weaknesses, and what can be emphasized.
Your personal behavior may affect your future relationship. Try to overtake your father-in-law. Of course, his opinion for the wife in most cases is not authoritative, but the water grinds the stone. And in the future he will serve. And how to attract a man to his allies, intuitively knows any girl.
With small attacks do not try to defend yourself, even if the opinion of mother-in-law is unacceptable for you. It will only say that you are to blame for something. Focus on the positive aspects of your future husband. Praise him, but only in moderation, his habits, upbringing, but at the first meeting do not point out the partner's shortcomings. If you are at the meeting began to learn the mind of reason, have patience, listen to the end with proudly raised head. Thank for all the expressed and very important opinion.
We learned how to make a good impression on the future mother-in-law at the first acquaintance. But if the evening did not go smoothly? But you already know what you need to do to conquer his family, if all this is worth it to continue to fight for your partner.