First, according to statistics, more than half of women experience regular or periodic problems with orgasm. And for them, the lack of sex is not so terrible for a man, as many of them do not get used to doing this without pleasure. Secondly, a woman can have sex even at times when she does not want to. But how to make men make love is a nontrivial matter. After all, many men are not able to make love when they do not want it.
First you need to find the reason for the lack of sex in the family. Most sexologists distinguish three types of such causes.
The first reason lies in the frustration of sexual attraction. Men who do not want sex can take care of it if the woman asks. But they rarely have a desire to take the initiative. In this situation, making a man make love is real. Especially if he does not have a second type of disorder - an excitation disorder, called impotence in the people. However, we'll talk about this below. In the meantime, it is worth noting what you need to pay attention to, if your man can, but does not want. Often the cause of the decline in attraction (libido) is caused by illness and the intake of pharmacological drugs. Go to meet a man, if he is undergoing treatment, and temporarily medications reduce his desire for sex. After all, this is a temporary phenomenon. To reduce the desire is also poorly affected by stress, underfedness, starvation, overwork. How to deal with all these problems - you probably can guess yourself. In any case, they do not require special advice from a sexologist.
It is much more difficult to make a man want you if the reasons are not biological, but psychological. Decrease in desire can be passive and active. In the first case, the husband will prefer watching TV for sex, but if he is invited to make love, he will not refuse. In the second case, active avoidance of sex on the part of a man may be unpleasant for a woman. The husband can stay at work until midnight, try to come home as late as possible, provoke quarrels, after which he goes to sleep on the sofa, etc. Usually families, in which the question of how to make a man make love, is a whole bunch of unresolved conflicts that are carefully masked or hushed up. To come to a normal level of sexual activity, it is impossible to do without solving these conflicts.
The second reason for the lack of sex is an excitation disorder. In this case, the erection of a man may be absent or be sluggish, sometimes it is not enough to end a sexual act. Often a harbinger of this problem is that a man can not start sex without preliminary oral caresses. It would be good in such situations not to force a man to make love, but to go to a good doctor. The reasons for the lack of erection can also be physiological and psychological. However, the diagnosis of the problem is traditionally begun with the study of the physical health of a man. It is generally believed that female sexuality is fragile, and is broken due to any minor conflict. In fact, this also applies to men. Sometimes men can not have an erection with overly critical women, or with women they are afraid of. And at the same time, they all work out perfectly "on the side" or with self-satisfaction. In order to understand what to do in your particular situation, you need to talk with a man about this problem. And find out if he can have an erection while watching pornography or masturbation. If this is the case, then probably you will have to deal with psychological problems in the relationship.
The third reason for male cooling is the violation of the phase of orgasm. It can be expressed in a delayed or accelerated ejaculation. In this case, a man may want a wife, has a good erection, but can avoid sex only because he is afraid of appearing as a bad lover. Male orgasm is a reflex, which is akin to the reflex of urination or defecation. If your man does not pee in bed at night and does not suffer from constipation, then he is generally able to control his reflexes. So, the reasons for overcontrol or insufficient control of orgasm should be sought in the emotional sphere. Perhaps, an excessively fast orgasm in a man - this is one of the few types of sexual abuse, when a man should be forced to make love. After all, one of the reasons for it - an increased attraction to his own wife. She so impresses a loving man that he can not hold his emotions long. Then he may get scared that he is not a very good lover and begin to avoid sex. As a result, gets into bed again chesusur excited. And again he suffers a fiasco. Paradoxically, with an accelerated orgasm, it is good for a man to have sex more often, so that with time the heat of passion decreases and he can control himself better.
When men have a tight phase of reaching orgasm, the reasons can be covered in over-control. Such an excessive desire to control everything around a man can be from childhood. And sometimes it arises as a defensive reaction to the rejection of his masculine qualities by the wife. If such a man feels that his wife does not like him, he considers a loser or not sure of his male attractiveness, he can be so clammy that he can not experience orgasm. Or he will need too much time to achieve detente.
As can be seen from the above, any form of cooling of sexual relations requires an analysis of two factors - the physiological state of a man and the level of his psychological comfort. In many cases, it may be that the wife herself provokes problems with her husband's sex. So before a woman decides to make a man make love, you need to be prepared for the fact that a number of unpleasant facts about yourself will open in the process.