So, let's talk about how to overcome attachments to a loved one. In fact, love is a feeling that is extremely difficult to overcome. If we treat a person in a special way, it happens that sensible thoughts turn out to be too far from our understanding. We begin to present to the beloved claim, and we want to fully possess it, to occupy in its life the most part. This desire must be overcome. The fact is that every person needs to have their own space and personal life. Our affection, often, just does not let us breathe freely. The beloved guy also needs to seclude himself and communicate with friends. Unfortunately, not all girls understand this and try to overcome their desire to have total control over the young man. Of course, attachment to a man is very good, and many believe that when people are tied, the bonds between them are very difficult to break. But, in fact, it's not completely wrong. How does it really happen?
So, let's talk about the ladies who want to control every sigh and step of their beloved guy. Such girls constantly write sms, call and ask their loved one where he is, what with him, whether he came home already. Also, it is these ladies who think that it is necessary to literally look at the guy in the mouth, and to read his sms is also not superfluous. In fact, all these things do not bring together, but will alienate those people who meet or live together. Of course, do not assume that guys behave like real angels. They also make a lot of mistakes that irritate girls. They keep track of their ladies and constantly call them when they go to fitness or are going to a hen party with girlfriends. This behavior, like the behavior of women, can also lead to quarrels, scandals and rupture.
Why do we do this, and what makes us feel such excessive affection for our halves? In fact, there are many explanations why people do this. For example, often, the most jealous of those who constantly feel defective. People who do not believe in themselves often think that they are being changed, because they knowingly or subconsciously believe that they do not deserve such a woman or such a man. Also, some people want not just to love, but to possess a person. They do not even notice that they start treating someone as an ordinary thing that belongs to them and does not have the right to act independently. Such a slave system leads to quarrels and resentments. It is painful and unpleasant for any person to be treated like a beautiful doll, which can be played and put in a corner, where it never goes anywhere.
Strong attachment to a person leads to the fact that we begin to try to limit it. We sincerely believe that this will be better, and he does not know what and how to do correctly. That's just, in fact, it's not entirely true. All the same, each of us has the right to choose, with whom to communicate and what to do, as well as how to distribute and spend your personal time. But, experiencing a strong affection, we begin to put pressure on people and set the conditions: if you love me, then you will not go there and there, but, also, do that and that. Often, a person does not agree fully to reconcile with the rules that the half establishes to him, therefore, he starts to hide something and not talk. Over time, these misunderstandings turn into real lies. When all the lies rise up, the "analysis of flights" begins, which, often leads to a rupture.
But, what to do and how to act in this case? How to wean yourself to follow your loved one on your heels and watch absolutely all his words and movements? In fact, there is no panacea for this kind of "disease". It's easy for everyone to discuss such topics and give advice, but to sort out yourself and really decide something is extremely difficult. Therefore, you just need to learn to accept your loved one as he is. You can not force him to fall out of love or to refuse something, if this, of course, does not harm his health. All people are different and we can have different hobbies. In addition, it's so interesting to comprehend what your other half loves. It's just that we need to believe that we really want to know this. In addition, we should never forget that at one time, each of us lived his own life. And your boyfriend had friends since childhood and you simply do not have the right to take his communication with them. Also, he had his hobbies and desires, which you just do not have the right to take. In the end, each person has his own personal space. Therefore, do not try to hack into his Vkontakte page, read messages or overhear conversation. You have to trust him if you do not feel that he is really deceiving you and changing you. And, every woman can understand when a man really needs to doubt, and when she herself thinks up something for herself. Therefore, even if your young man is silent and secretive, if he likes to sit at the computer and never reacts to your provocations, do not be angry with him, watch him and make him do as you want. We are all individuals and pretend to live as we want. If you see and feel that he loves you, does everything for you, does not offend and does not change, let him be what he is. Do not get angry and do not impose. We are formed as a child and we hate it when someone tries to remake us. Always remember this.
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