Will it not happen that our faithful is too much for a walk, and not as if, but spends on the side! Agree, this is not very pleasant, but still the question arises whether to allow the husband to change? And strangely enough, there is no clear answer to this question.
In this article we will try to look at this question from two points of view, in order to give you the most detailed picture. But you still have to answer it, because there is no one-sided solution to the problem. So, let's get down to scrutiny.
Arguments for permitting treason.
Although at first glance, you can not allow or forgive treason, but there are situations when it is impossible, turns into a possible.
You too are not without sin.
For example, you yourself have a novel on the side, while neither you nor your husband want to get divorced (in this case there may be a lot of reasons, starting with children, ending, oddly enough, with love that has not died out). In this case, you can simply conclude a "gentlemen's" agreement, everyone has the right to treason, and no one will be punished for anything if he does not bring trouble to his partner with his betrayal. Strangely enough, such married couples exist, and it is even possible to say more, they are happy with each other.
You can not give him what he wants.
Or another situation, your husband wants in sex what you can not give him or do not want, here we will not consider what exactly it is. The fact is important to us, in this case, perhaps, it makes sense to allow him an affair on the side in order to satisfy his sexual needs. Of course, here, too, need to negotiate the conditions in advance, otherwise the husband can feel freedom and break off the leash.
The last argument.
Finally, sometimes this decision can help you save your marriage, of course, this is an extreme and very difficult and unpleasant measure, but if you understand that without this person you simply can not live (feelings, material reasons), then perhaps this step is necessary will decide. But do not forget that always and in all situations, the final decision is yours and you have the right to choose on your own.
But in all these cases, I emphasize once again, it is very important to set conditions and limitations. You can not just say, go and change right and left, even treason must have its limits.
Arguments for not permitting treason.
Well, here, in general, everything is simple, but still, it will not be superfluous to recall that treason, whether from your side or from the side of the husband, is a sign that something is wrong in the relationship. And maybe you need to change something. Treason, of course, the same change, but too extreme and cardinal. Of course, free relationships are in fashion today, but to decide on them, you must be completely confident in your husband, and in yourself and in your feelings. Otherwise, they can lead to complete collapse!
If we talk about what is close to me, as the author of the article, then I personally would not give such permission to my husband. But I know for sure that among my acquaintances there are couples where treason is not considered a crime, and they are happy. In this case, of course, you need to understand that you or not allow your husband treason, if he wants, he will still change.
From all of the above, we can conclude that sometimes there are situations where to allow betrayal to her husband is a way out and really the lesser of evils, but even in this case, you can not do this without additional conditions! Similarly, one must understand that your ban is not yet a panacea for its adultery.