Probably everyone at least once in his life stopped halfway with a premonition: did I turn off the gas? Has the heater turned off, was the door locked? .. If this happens often, this article is for you.
THE FAMOUS SCRIPT
"... Did not turn off the iron!" Thought pierced like an electrical discharge. Right now, when Lyudmila is on the bus, the flames flash, she throws herself on the curtains, and the whole apartment is already burning ... The woman felt a sharp weakness and a heartbeat. "Stop it!" She shouted to the driver.
Catching a taxi, Lyudmila burst into an apartment in a fainting state. Thank God! She not only turned off the iron, but put it in its place. As always does. And still it always comes back, not believing ...
WAITING FOR THE SKYPE
Usually this condition arises from overloads, most often emotional ones. It's worth resting, putting your affairs in order, how everything goes. But if this behavior becomes obtrusive, fear too often, you return home often, or worse, remember that everyone turned off-extinguished-closed, but contrary to common sense, anxious forebodings overwhelm you-it's worth thinking about how to calm yourself.
Anxiety is the most common negative emotion. A person does not find a place, can not concentrate on anything. But if you ask: "What exactly are you afraid of?" - he can not always answer clearly.
It is very difficult to endure such an unlimited, freely floating alarm. That's the person and seeks to give it a concrete meaning. This gives rise to fear directed at a specific object. And the closest thing for everyone is the fear of their home.
To cope with this feeling, everyone comes up with their own ways: someone comes back to check if everything is in order, someone comes up with rituals ("If I see five cars with lucky numbers - everything will be fine"). But it helps for a little while. After a while, the alarm spans with renewed vigor.
FIRE INSIDE
When we are all right, we live here and now, without chewing on the past and not worrying about the future. Many things are done automatically, without hesitation. But consciousness fixes: iron included? - turned off. Even if we do not remember the moment when we removed the plug from the outlet, the soul is still calm.
If a person lives in a state of chronic tension, and his head is loaded with heavy thoughts, the consciousness refuses to retain such trifles as a door or an iron. Then one sudden thought is enough to get the alarm. And already there is a palpitation, a shiver, the person chokes and rushes home. Making sure that everything is in order, he seems to calm down. But ... the sensitivity to the object that caused it increases. And if next time for some reason he can not return, his fear will be a hundred times sharper and more painful. Here and to a heart attack not far away.
How to tame the alarm?
- Try to be extremely careful in those actions that you do automatically. Turning off the iron, pay attention to the fact that the cord is worn out. Closing the door, pull it three times ...
- There is also such a way: pulling out the plug, turning the key in the lock, say out loud: "I turned off the iron." I closed the door. " As soon as the thought-doubt flashes, you will remember that everything was done correctly.
- Sometimes even the belief that the house is all right does not save you from anxiety. If thrown into the heat or cold, worries palpitations, trembling, apply relaxation techniques, take a valerian tablet.
- You can use auto-training. Each of us had or has a place where we feel completely safe. For example, in the childhood on the grandmother's kitchen or in bed, having covered up with a head. Try to evoke these feelings more often.
- In the end, just think about something good, trying to kill terrible pictures that draw imagination. And if the nasty thought comes back, send it: "Get out!". It is important to do this every time an alarm is triggered. The technique is ridiculously simple, but, oddly enough, it works.
- What if you feel uncomfortable wanting to go home to check everything? Usually they say: "It's better to return than to suffer all day." However, if the returns have become a habit, try to stay away from it and get busy some time.
And most importantly, we must do everything to reduce the sense of anxiety. Of course, life often makes us tense. But you can put a filter: do not read in the newspapers criminal chronicle, do not watch the fighters, dose your communication with those who always have everything bad. As they say, wit, live is not terrible - it's scary watching TV.
- Keep track of what you say about yourself. Often we are convinced that in a difficult situation the main thing is to get out. But this often turns out to be self-tapping: endlessly telling about their problems, a person does not calm down, but gets even more frustrated. Try another tactic: "I know that I have a problem, I feel anxious, but I will try to cope with it on my own without involving others." Sometimes, at your own peril, you just need to shout: "Stop, go!".
- In addition, if you want to get rid of anxiety, take the rule not to paint your problems with bright colors: "I feel terrible! I have no money! My husband is an idiot! The child is lazy!". No matter how much you want to say these words, stop. Anxiety is fueled by such statements and troubles find you.
- And remember: no one knows what is ahead of us. We have the right to choose: to represent the future in light colors or in the dark. As we think, that's how we feel. And to be afraid in moderation is not harmful.