Fears related directly to the fetus.
Pregnancy is a new stage in life, regardless of whether it is first or not. Every future mother worries throughout the period.
The very first fear is the threat of miscarriage. This phenomenon is absolutely not terrible, if you carefully follow all the instructions of the doctor who leads your pregnancy. To panic and lie in hospital all 9 months, if it is not required, it is not necessary. Usually, in such situations it is necessary to take vitamins, more to be outdoors and to rest. Another tip for all expectant mothers: no need to "wind". Your morale strongly affects the physical state.
Time passes, and the "puzozhitel" grows. You already begin to feel his movements. The next fear is "why is he not pushing or moving?". I will remind all women that the child, while in your stomach, sleeps more during the day, is awake at night or early in the morning, when you really want to sleep.
If you notice that the baby is not pushing, wait three hours, he probably just rest. Time has passed, but you do not feel movement? Do not call and call 03. To begin with, calm yourself, and then try to talk to the crumb, stroking your stomach. In most cases, the child will respond to gentle stroking with a jerk. And you just waited for it. In order to overcome this fear once and for all, talk more with the baby and gently carry on the stomach.
Also, many are faced with fear of damage to the stomach. To avoid this, you must follow a few simple rules:
1. Do not wear a high heel, as there is a chance of falling.
2. In the winter try not to leave the house unaccompanied, you can slip.
3. During pregnancy, do not continue to move by public transport. Alas, people have not yet learned how to respect women "in position."
This, of course, is not all the rules, but the main part comes out of these three. Always remember that you are already two, and the responsibility, mainly, always lies on the future mother.
Fears associated with signs.
A large number of people believe in signs. Future mothers are also subject to this phenomenon. That's where the fear arises to do something wrong and lose a child.
To be afraid of overcoming it is necessary to understand where it came from, and who intimidates you. In most cases, these are favorite mothers, mothers-in-law, grandmothers or, for example, best friends. In a word, all those who already have children. The most common signs are associated with the coloring of hair or changing hair style, they say, the baby will wrap around the umbilical cord or shorten the life of the child. It's all nonsense. If the umbilical cuffing is really there, then this is not the result of your manipulations with the hair. Any doctor will say, this indicates that your baby is quite active, and as a result, there was a blunder.
Fear of childbirth.
Here it is, the most common fear. On the whole planet Earth there is no woman who is not afraid of birth. If someone claims the opposite, then, most likely, cunning.
In order to overcome fear, it is worth thinking about what you are most afraid of. The birth? Pain? The fact that you can not make it to the hospital when the fights have already begun?
Let's start in order. So, the fear of the birth itself is a normal phenomenon. Completely get rid of it will not succeed, but in your hands transfer the fear from the discharge of panic into excitement. To do this, it is necessary to prepare yourself morally from the very beginning of pregnancy. Everyone finds a way to do it. Someone repeats like a mantra: "Everything will be fine," and someone, for example, turns to God. All this is purely individual. Find your stumbling block and use it until the very birth.
If the term to give birth suits, and you are scared so much that you do not want to give birth, then this is a separate case. Try to talk with the doctor who will take delivery. He will say that if you listen and do everything he says, then it will not be so painful and scary. It is worth believing, you are not the first. In a case where there is no such possibility, just sit back, close your eyes and imagine your baby. Think about what kind of joy will spread throughout the body when you hear the long-awaited cry of a newborn baby. It is these thoughts that will save you from going to a therapist.
If you are afraid of pain, then the therapist will not help. With this you need to accept. In films, giving birth, the bulk of women scream. It's just a film and think that for you the birth will be the final point of life is not right. Of course, there is not much pleasure in the birth itself, but nobody will be able to die on the table. You - an example for a future child, and tell a few years later, how it hurts, you in the negative. A woman should always be strong, especially since this pain can and should be tolerated.
The fear of not being able to reach the maternity home when the fights begin, in most cases, is absolutely vain. Do not forget that exceptions come even from the rules. In order for you to be taken to the hospital on time, you do not need to wait until the time interval between contractions is the minimum. If you feel that the contractions begin or the waters are off, then you should call 03 at once and call the ambulance that will take you to the hospital that was chosen in advance. All the necessary things in advance, put in a bag, because you will clearly not be up to running around the house, looking for a charger for the phone or an exchange card. Take a deep breath, put things near the exit and calmly wait for the doctors. If you follow this rule, then the fear of forgetting something necessary at home disappears by itself. At the entrance to the hospital, think that today you will become a mother. The most beloved and dear person for a baby you've been waiting for. These thoughts will give confidence, and all fears will evaporate.
Summarizing all of the above, we can extract one simple truth. Fears inside of us, physically they can not be killed, but morally it is quite possible. Only a favorable attitude is the very prerequisite for mild pregnancy and successful childbirth, which many future mothers have been looking for for many years.