What to do first - is to try to understand the reason for leaving her husband. You should not invent anything, but it is important to understand what caused your separation. And only then think about how to recover from her husband's withdrawal to another woman. Often after some reflection, some become isolated in themselves, they live in their own world, in which they do not let anyone in. That this did not happen, but that you can understand the reason for leaving her husband to another, we must take a very serious approach to the issue of family life. At one time they together made mistakes and behaved incorrectly. Just rethinking what was wrong with their behavior. All this is necessary in order to avoid such mistakes in the future.
Each woman decides how to recover from her husband's withdrawal to another woman. You can sit crying and worrying if your husband left for another, or you can just smile and start all over again. After all, if you understand, nothing terrible has happened, you are alive and well. And the desire to cry is for every woman left from childhood, thus attracting attention. You can cry when you take a shower or a pillow, cry quietly on a bench in a deserted park, in public transport, you can yell at nature ... if he left only yesterday, one month ago or six months.
When you are still a child - this is understandable, and when an adult woman is already, it is useless to pour tears, we must urgently do something.
It will be very difficult for you to come to yourself immediately, but you have to try to be strong and pull yourself together.
Here are some tips for you.
- To begin with, you will need to calm down, because you are not the first woman with whom such a situation has occurred and is happening. You may think that your case is the most terrible. But think for yourself - no one has died, none of your loved ones are ill with an incurable disease, so your case is not as terrible as it seems.
- Our memory is designed in such a way that we often remember only good things, and all bad things go to the background. And you take a pen and a blank sheet of paper and write on it all the bad things that were in the nature and nature of your husband. And after you write, read it well several times, get rid of it, so you will get rid of your abuser
- You can use the phone of trust or the help of a psychologist or cry out to your best friend / friend. You just need to talk. But you still have to talk with your parents. And the earlier this conversation takes place, the better. Do not put it off in the long box. They will always understand and support your decision, whatever it may be.
- You can try to change something in your appearance. Change hair style and hair color, change style in clothes. Go yourself or with a friend in the shops, pamper yourself with new purchases. Do not be afraid to change beyond recognition.
- Do not let yourself be sorry. Pity makes a person even more stressed.
- Give up revenge, it will lead to nothing. Your opponent, maybe, is worthy of different nasty utterances, but if you do not say anything, you will be higher than her. Do not be humiliated and even start a conversation with her. Let it be on her conscience. It's not for nothing that there is a good proverb: "You can not build your happiness on someone else's misfortune."
- Do not expect that he will return to you. Do not try to stop it. if he decided, then you will be powerless to stop him.
I want to warn you against two things:
- It is not necessary to allow that the husband lived "on two houses", passing from one woman to another comparing, where he is better and more happy.
- Do not change her husband's punishment for the fact that he left you for another woman. This will primarily affect you and your further well-being and for marriage, which is still there. While you do not take the right and right decision, what will you do next, this should not be done. Only in this way will you acquire something new for yourself.
- You have to find something to do. If before you did not have time to do yourself, then this is the moment when you need to register for fitness, going to the gym, classes in the pool. You can go to oriental dances, a circle of ceramics, go to theaters, cinema, communicate with friends, in general, do not shut yourself up.
- The cardinally wrong act that women often use to keep a husband is the manipulation of children. As practice shows, alliances that are based on such relations are not durable, and still sooner or later he will leave you again. The psychic of children is very vulnerable and if the children are manipulated, the child can get a psychological trauma. After all, even if the husband leaves, it does not mean that he renounces his child. At this point, it is important to protect them from clarifying attitudes in adults.
- You can get yourself a little pet, to which you will carry all your care and affection. Who will be given free time.
- If it is possible, then go somewhere rest a little, for example, you can go somewhere abroad. Believe me, in any country you can relax and rest, put your thoughts in order.
- It is worth taking this step, through your problem and pain, and in the future you will prove to be a happy person.
It is necessary to remember to all ladies that the role of a caring mother and beautiful wife is not everything, and the meaning of life is sometimes not only that you are loved by someone. Because the circumstances can be formed quite differently. We must learn to love ourselves, to learn to be a real woman, only in this way you can take place in life. It is necessary to discover that there is life without men, that one can live on their own. That's why you have to realize yourself in what you have dreamed about all your life.
So do not lose heart, dear women, love, happiness and family well-being to you and your family.