Conflicts arise periodically in each family. How to avoid them or correctly resolve, this article will tell.
In any family, from time to time, there are disputes, disagreements, conflicts and misunderstandings. Unfortunately, very few people can avoid them, because two people can not always have one point of view, do absolutely everything correctly and fulfill all the wishes of each other. But any conflict is easier to settle at the initial stage, rather than bring it to the boiling point. Therefore, it is necessary to prevent conflict or to resolve it correctly. A few simple tips how to settle the conflict with her husband.
Nice memories
Morning ... the sun kindly wakes its first rays, you unwillingly wake up, sweetly stretch, turn over from side to side ... and find yourself in the arms of your beloved husband. It's nice, is not it?
Surely every woman has her own pleasant memories, related to marital life, joint rest, some holidays, events or simple everyday life. Here is the first way to prevent conflict or quarrel. Whenever you feel irritated, and you want to express all your discontent with your husband, stop, remember the pleasant moments spent together, and your anger will subside. And then, in a calm tone, with a sense and arrangement, you can discuss all the accumulated problems. And in most cases all these problems simply disappear. The conflict is settled.
Swap places
If your imagination fails you, and you can not remember pleasant moments in life, then for you there is a second way - try to put yourself in the place of the spouse. Yes, yes - this is the most hackneyed and long-bored way about which we have been told since childhood. But think, how often do we really use it in practice, and not just create an appearance to calm our conscience? After all, any person wants to be heard, I want to "stay in his place", in "his skin". The next step, with the next brewing conflict with her husband, think about the circumstances that prompted the spouse to some words and deeds. And is his point of view wrong? Or does it still have a place to be? Maybe this mental "exchange of bodies" will tell you how to come to a mutual agreement in a disputable moment.
Take a pause
And one more important way of preserving the peaceful situation in the family. When in your conversation there are more and more insulting words about the spouse, when the substantiated facts are replaced by your speculation, when there is only one step to the breaking of the dishes and clapping the doors, it is worth taking a pause and thinking over the whole situation. Someone is missing 10 minutes, someone is limited to several hours, and some are ready to resume the conversation only the next morning. In any case, the process of resolving the issue to a "cold head" will be much faster and more efficient.
We build our relations ourselves. And it is always worth remembering that patience and mutual understanding are the key components of reliable, lasting and lasting relationships.
Love and be loved!