Ancient Greek thinker Diogenes, sometimes going to a barrel, was absolutely not afraid of loneliness and philosophized for his own pleasure and humanity for good.
Theoretically from Diogenes, any woman differs unless by belonging to the other sex. Because each by nature is self-sufficient, for which loneliness, in metered quantities, is a great opportunity to be alone with oneself, philosophize, do something pleasant and even miss your beloved, who left for a few days on a business trip. In reality, the fear of loneliness is excruciating. Putting on one or another mask, loneliness is cleverly disguised and so dexterously involves women in its diabolical action, that, complaining, for example, of physical ailment or excess weight, they never sin on the true culprit.
Who chooses solitude?
The causes of loneliness often lie in early childhood. Experts have long found out that the mental development of a child deprived of love and attention is slower than that of his peers, and the load of negative emotions remains in memory for almost the entire life and makes itself felt in bizarre and even ugly forms.
The life of a single woman resembles a computer program with a virus, which for one reason or another she received as a child. At first the virus does not betray itself, hiding in the depths of the subconscious, but in due course it walks to its fullest. Suffering from a misunderstanding of others, feeling hopeless situation or having lost the hope to meet a loved one, women do not understand the true causes of fears, but struggle with them - to the best of their ability. For example, they try to convince themselves that ... their grandmothers were widows during the war, but, as is known, they did not die of longing. Or try to fawn upon others, hoping thus to place them to themselves. Or they cultivate insults in their own soul, gradually turning into inveterate egoists and samoyedok. In any case, they mobilize the mental and physical forces to fight the painful problem and, not knowing what they are doing, include a powerful mechanism of subconscious mental protection. But the problem remains, and the woman gets used to living with pain - misunderstanding, disappointment, indifference, because she is not accustomed to apply for such "trifles" to specialists.
Over time, the situation is aggravated even more and, it would seem, is not clear why the "victim" of loneliness begins to get nervous, suffer from insomnia, turn to a gynecologist for irregularities in the menstrual cycle, complain about back pain ... And does not suspect that this is a life program with the virus destroys its own house from the inside. Further - more: mental health suffers. Many events are perceived one-sidedly, every minor trifle attached great importance, and the situation in fact can - end sadly.
An example of this is the image of a poor Lisa in the same name of the writer Karamzin. The girl grew up alone and in her childhood did not see, as psychologists say, models of family happiness. Her emotions, heated up by Erast's luminous image, were so far off scale from internal problems that even the thought of an old mother who did not suffer the death of a single daughter did not stop her from making a tragic decision.
Some women, trying to hide from their own loneliness, get married, get divorced, give birth to children, give birth to countless girlfriends, with whom they, in general, do not have anything to do with them. In a word, they "stifle" loneliness in vanity. Is it effective? Unfortunately no. Because in the crowd you can feel even more alone than yourself.
Freud will help usSigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, was not only a professional doctor, but also a lonely man. Once, sitting down at his desk and analyzing his own problem, he got rid of it, "splashing out" on paper. Thus, the specialists received one of the most effective methods - psychoanalysis, which is used to this day. The patient, under the strict guidance of the psychoanalyst, speaks his own problem and gets rid of it - this is, in a primitive presentation, a scheme of treatment for loneliness.
PSYCHOTHERAPEUTIC ADVICE:
- a sense of boredom, a sense of guilt and worthlessness, spiritual emptiness - these are the symptoms of impending loneliness;
- to control your feelings, put your thoughts in order;
- Solve problems as they occur;
- Do not stall - move from reflection to active action;
- Try to avoid emotional overloads and nervous breakdowns;
- Do not let loneliness creep into the souls of your children;
- it's already a lot to make a choice in favor of life.