So how do you tell a teenager about sex without hurting him and giving him the right idea about this affair?
You can not
You can not specifically call a child for such a delicate conversation, deciding that the time has come. Such a conversation should occur spontaneously, or if the child himself asks about it.
Do not omit the topic, say something like, "Grow, learn" .... After all, if a child is interested, then it is necessary to explain, otherwise information will be searched elsewhere and not the fact that this information will be positive.
You can not make a cult out of sex, this attitude imposes information on the child, it causes interest, but it is often painful, problematic.
Age
Parents often do not understand at what age to tell about a child to a child, they are waiting for a question from a child. But, it will be right if the sexual education of the child will occur from the cradle, that is, the first idea of sex should be when the child asks where it came from. Of course, here the story should be as thin as possible. Do not talk about cabbage, a shop and a stork. It is better to tell that the father planted a seed in the tummy of his mother and a son or daughter was born.
Child Teenager
But it happens that time is missed, and an adult child, about 10-13 years old, asked parents about sex. What to do? How to talk about sex to a teenage child? After all, the child asks, because he begins to be interested in the relationship of the sexes. Girls and boys are drawn to each other, they start to be friends, to communicate.
If you talk to your child about sex directly, without avoiding the most "slippery topics" in a conversation, that is, how can you tell about oral sex, about sexually transmitted diseases, then you will avoid many unpleasant moments.
It is important to recognize that sexuality is not bad, but very good. In the event that you say that sex is not good, the child will simply stop perceiving your words, ignore you.
The girl, to talk about sex, is much easier than the boy. For girls, the beginning to talk is the time of the onset of menstruation. With the boy, it's more difficult to talk about sex. Perhaps it should be done by the pope, or some kind of close man.
Say that sex should start with kisses and gradually approach the most important, with the help of this slowness, there is time to stop. Tell us that sex should be filled with romance.
The girl needs to be taught to say "no" firmly. After all, modest silence, perceived by the boys, as a green color and they begin to act. The boys themselves, must be sure that the girl wants sex. And boys need to teach this. They need to talk about the responsibility for dating rape and sexual harassment.
Now, many people think that using oral sex can not get sexually transmitted diseases, but it's not so. Therefore, your task is to explain this to your son or daughter.
Tell me that you should not have sex because "everything is already, but I'm not." It is important to love a partner, and then sex will be more fun. Tell us about the fact that sex very much binds people and then it's more difficult to part and people regret what they did. Tell us that from sex there is pregnancy and not always desired.
Both parents should participate in the conversation. Mom will talk about the female side of the issue, dad look from the side of the man.
You can use the relevant literature, in order to explain something to your teenager.