The habit is truly a terrible thing, and often it becomes indistinguishable from love. After your relationship with an expensive person is celebrated already a solid anniversary, it often becomes unclear what kind of foundation they support. And more and more often the usual relationships begin to weigh you and even upset, and more and more often there is a gloomy thought: "Maybe, enough?". How do you figure out when it's time to break the union, and when will this decision be a truly irreparable mistake?
There are periods when two people, once passionately fond of each other, become together not so comfortable. Is this a lost love or a temporary crisis of relations? Happens all. Maybe, love is really not true, and people live together by habit. Or maybe they just got tired of each other, and we need to give them a chance to rest.Try to be separated temporarily. Do not part, not break the union - it will be painful even for relationships in which there is no longer love - namely, temporarily parting. It is not necessary for a year to run to the other end of the world. Just live a little apart (for example, go to someone for a few days) or, at least, limit communication. The thought "How is he (a) there without me?" Will appear anyway. But pay attention to the main thing: would you miss a loved one? Perhaps your tenderness will break out with renewed strength after a day of separation, or it may be that you are surprised to notice that it's been a whole week already. It is important to understand - only honestly - whether you are comfortable in the absence of the second half. Can you calmly deal with your affairs, think about extraneous things? If the separation period passes calmly, then, in all likelihood, you really do not need this man's company. But if you do not find places for yourself, forgetting about all the grievances and discontent, then probably your feelings are still alive and have a chance for rehabilitation. It is very important to understand when you feel better - in the company of a person or without it.
Another point - pay attention, do people of the opposite sex attract you? This may not be at the level of the outlined desire, but on fleeting thoughts like "And he (a) might like me". A person who is strongly attached to his / her half is usually slightly interested in the opposite sex - he can communicate with his representatives, but simply do not perceive them other than friends, not to notice their attractiveness. But if you often catch yourself thinking "Like he's nothing ..." and want to flirt a little, then perhaps this is a sign that your interest in the other sex has woken up - just because your feelings are quenched.
Are you jealous? Of course, there are people who are not completely jealous, all have different temperaments. But even if you treat such people, it is still difficult to believe that you have always been completely indifferent to where your elected person spends time and who is interested in it. Imagine that he is now, at this moment, with someone else ... Of course, jealousy often dies after love because of the sense of possessiveness that is inherent in many people, but if the thoughts mentioned above do not bother you at all, then this is true a sign that everything is over.
Do you experience sexual attraction to a partner? Over time, the passion in relationships is dulled, but it is important to know whether the attraction remains or is quenched. When love dies, you can often see a picture that a person needs sex in principle, but at the thought of a particular person, the fire immediately disappears.
Perhaps, we considered the main signs of love, which are not characteristic for the relationship "out of habit". Listen to your feelings, and then you will be able to make the right decision. It happens that it is necessary to break off the prolonged, in fact unnecessary relationship, and it happens that you can very much regret having broken firewood. In any situation it is important to know how you feel about the person in fact, then you can understand whether to keep your usual relationship or not.