Give way!
In the subway car enters a girl with a big belly, helplessly looks around, but the passengers all as one suddenly fall asleep, or indifferently diverted their eyes. Many future mothers say that it's not so hard to stand, it's insulting to realize that other people treat you with indifference. It's all the more unpleasant, when at the entrance to the car a sturdy "pregnant woman" is overtaken by strong guys and flops down briskly to the seat with the kind of champions. Unfortunately, our world is not perfect, and when we need help, not everyone will respond. Even if we only need to stand up for a couple In this situation, you should take the initiative and ask the passenger to give you a seat - it's better than standing and getting angry at the whole white world, learn how to ask for help for yourself.Many future moms are rarely refused. And if this happens, then step aside and image If you do not brave your pregnancy, be sure to thank for good.
The Harmful Husband
There are ideal husbands! And they go to the shops, and cook, and they wash the dishes. Sometimes it seems that it is for such dudes for some reason that more than others gets from their wives. A pregnant wife only looks for shortcomings in a relationship. Dug in itself, in the behavior of her husband, arranges concerts from scratch. Manages the behavior of a woman is not a malevolent character, but hormones. She herself is not happy with her whims. For the sake of calm you can step on male pride. Remember: everything that the wife says with bitterness and tears is dictated by hormonal bursts, not by her consciousness. Literally in an hour, when the future mother will calm down and the world will play for her in other colors, she will be ashamed of offensive words. The future father is better to just hug the obstinate wife and say: "And I still love you." And the clouds will dissolve .Mother future mothers want more attention and concern, and when they do not think they receive it, there are grievances that then grow into quarrels and scandals, but you can not write off everything on hormones.To understand yourself, go to a psychologist.Maybe you do not have enough maternal care, and you want to find it from her husband, attracting his attention by such "concerts" and not wanting to grow up. And what if the husband really does not do the best job? For example, do not care how you feel, do not help carry heavy bags, do not worry about the birth of a baby? Specialists advise to awaken the responsibility of the spouse, telling the future dad about the cases associated with pregnancy, more often letting him go to a puzik. Let her pet her tummy, talk to the baby, and then the fatherly feelings will wake up. Such communication is very important - through it affection is born. If your husband likes to lie on the couch, then try to drive him to the store by any means. In the end, write a shopping list. Many men are easier to act "according to the instructions."
My second mother
Yes, it is possible to agree with the husband and easily reconcile. With the mother-in-law, the situation is more complicated. Here is the paradox: many women dream of their grandchildren, but at the same time they hate hateful those who provide this happiness to their daughters-in-law. Or do not want to enter their position, help, encourage and support. In case the mother-in-law and, indeed, the monster, it is better, of course, to live separately. And if there is no such possibility, then abstract from the situation, look at the rancor, as if from outside, play the role of an observer. And it is better to share anxiety among themselves and a neutral person - a psychologist.
It is necessary to understand why the relationship of the daughter-in-law became so critical. The responsibility for establishing contacts lies not only with the "second mother", but also with the daughter-in-law. It must be remembered that when you come to someone else's house, you can not impose your own rules, you'll have to adjust to the rules that operate there. a game for survival, a rivalry for one man.In such cases, too, we must talk.It is worth telling to her mother-in-law that she does not lose her son.Play: I do not compete with you, he is still your son.In most cases, that the world revolves around it. requests from the mother of the husband are taken with hostility, but by creating your family, you retain the first families, so you need to respect the established traditions.React to the remarks of mother-in-law (even unfair ones), try to calmly.Remember, Sometimes, instead of fervently defending one's position, it's better to laugh: "All of you, Marya Ivanovna, you know, but tell me, where is the bank of raspberry jam? Let's drink tea together. "A well-known actress gave a good example of a recipe for good relations with her mother-in-law:" When I first went to my husband's house, I noticed how the pillows are padded and how The mother-in-law noticed this and said: "I like you." So I found an approach to my husband's mother, and we became friends. "
The circumstances are to blame
If both the husband keeps, and the mother-in-law the gold, the pregnant capricious person will necessarily find an occasion for insult in surrounding conditions or behavior of other people. The cause for tears will serve anything: do not call from work indifferent colleagues, the apartment is cramped, the weather is nasty ... Midwife and mother of six children Alena Lebedeva advises pregnant women ... to think not only about themselves, but about others. The so-called blues of pregnant women (this beautiful word - presumably from the American idiom to feel blue - is called the unstable state of future mothers) is not a reason to become a complete selfish woman .-- Pregnancy is the most beautiful time in the life of many women. The future mother often behaves like a child, and needs care, like a toddler, but the surrounding people still perceive her as an adult and communicate on an equal footing. On the one hand, they may really lack a sensible On the other hand, the pregnant woman should look into herself, draw conclusions - whether her grievance is really justified.
Take care of yourself and your loved ones
In general, do not make mistakes so that memories from your pregnancy were only the best! Take care of yourself and your loved ones. Pregnancy is the beginning of a very long journey that you have to go through with your child. Hence, it is better to just get together and walk. Does her husband's mother again give harmful advice and interferes in his own business? Learn to correctly respond to this difficult road in high spirits. What is called, to spite the enemy, to the joy of my mother. Changing the hormonal background during pregnancy causes an increased susceptibility to external factors. No matter how you are offended, always think about what you experience psychological distress, first of all to yourself and your child. Try to ignore everything that can cause negative emotions, and communicate more with the baby.