How to stop complexing and learn to love yourself?


A woman is a sacrificial creature by definition. She always lives for someone: children, husband, family, bright future ... Do you think so? Then you, too, here. The topic of discussion is how to stop complexing and learn how to love yourself. Let's study together.

ON SHEAMS

Undoubtedly, most of us women overwhelm our thoughts mostly everyday: cares about the house and households, work problems .... But let's stop the running of everyday life for a moment and think about the big, the main thing. And the most important thing in this life is ourselves. No matter how the historians referred to the past epochs, no matter what role the man was assigned to, the world kept, keeps and will continue to hold on to women.

And it's not about megalomania. Tell us, in all honesty, who, besides us, knows how to reproduce offspring? Who, besides us, knows how to surround us with care and attention with care and attention of all the relatives, who are entrusted to us: husband, children, elderly parents, four-legged pets, unsettled girlfriends, disorderly bosses and windy subordinates? Here, that's it!

This is not to mention that Love, which rules the world - a feminine gender. Eve, our ancestress, loved herself, and she also bequeathed us. Men, of course, know this deep down. Even in the song it is sung: "Well, who will tell us that spring has come, well, who will disturb us and sleep, who will awaken love in our hearts, who will make us believe again in our dreams, who will kiss us even once, who will share our lives with us once and forever? .. "And from the song you can not throw out the words.

But, you see, in order to stop complexing and learn how to give love so great that it's enough for everyone around you, you need strength. A lot of strength. And we must accumulate these forces ourselves, without expecting that someone will come and help us in this. Maybe someone will help. But there are no guarantees.

AUTOTRENING WOMEN

But the biggest difficulty is that we are able to spend, that is, to give our strength, love and ability to others, we can just fine, but to accumulate ... And especially this science is given to our Russian women. So we are raised over the centuries that it is easier to enter the burning hut to take out of her favorite cat, and then, lying in intensive care, philosophically discuss what will happen to the children if the doctors still do not save, than from the very beginning think about the price of his life. It's easier to rush straight to the stove from the doorstep without having to change clothes after work to feed the insatiable households who did not bother even to set the plates, and then, from 30-35 years old, suffer with ever-galloping pressure and exhausted nerves, than once and for all to explain that you can eat if you are on duty. So it's easier for us, but not better, including for others.

By the way, have you ever read carefully the instruction on using an oxygen mask in airplanes? So, there it is written in black and white: the mother must first put a mask on herself, and then save the child! This is to learn how to groom and cherish itself, in fact, makes life itself.

Hence the first rule: the most important thing is to repeat every day your own reflection in the mirror: "I'm at home alone!" In other words, if you do not take care of yourself, learn to love yourself, it is unlikely to be done by someone else. However, when the limit of your forces is exhausted, who will take care of your loved ones? Therefore, in order to ensure that children, parents, husbands, girlfriends, and colleagues are well, it must be good for you first!

Rule two. Almost always (except for the most critical situations) we have time to count to 5 or to 10, and then again to ask ourselves: Is it reasonable to myself to act?

Rule three: if before making a decision, you have the opportunity to think carefully, take up paper and a pen. Leaflet in half: in one column you list with a column what good promises you the implementation of this decision, and in another - everything is bad. The conclusion will be obvious.

LOOK AT THE WEST

The experience of other nations does not always have to be adopted. Correspondence to the native mentality is brought to many by both satisfaction and a sense of peace of mind, so necessary among current stresses and deeds. But the way in Europe and America girls are almost taught to love and respect themselves from diapers, it is truly valuable. Beautiful diaper and dresses not only pleases the eye and develops a taste, but also make others compliment the baby. And the habit of hearing and accepting compliments is a great thing.

Look at our women: how many can respond in response to the phrase: "You look great today!" Reply: "Thank you, I know"? Alas. Some blush, as if they were caught in something indecent, others mutter rapidly that they just did not get enough sleep today or put on the wrong blouse. And all because my mother seldom said in her childhood: "You are my beauty!" More often there was something like: "Get away from the mirror, it's still small to flaunt!" But a woman should like herself, including in her childhood, otherwise the risk is very high a certain stage become a driven horse.

After all, some 20 years ago, Russian women, getting abroad, were incredibly surprised, seeing in the rooms of little girls jars of creams, hygienic lipstick, etc. What for?!! Yes, then, to get used to taking care of yourself from the cradle, and not to run all my life with coarse heels and hair, pulled into a tight bundle! In order not to "draw a face" for five minutes between the ironing of the shirt to her husband and sewing on the buttons to her son. Are men more than us, women, worthy to leave the house neat?

GOLDEN RULES

However, in childhood we will not return, except that our offspring will be brought up more dignified and reasonable. So let's learn to acquire new habits.

First of all, in order to love and respect yourself, stop urgently:

• Eat half-eaten by husband and children, and also give them the best pieces forever.

• To finish the unfinished household. Even if you have such an opportunity - it's their duty.

• Refuse to buy something necessary or very desired in order to please loved ones.

• Sacrificing sleep for home or work (unless it's the health of your family).

• Change your plans (including global ones, such as training, interesting work, etc.) to please someone, not necessarily.

• To be scornful about yourself (because the people around us treat us the way we treat ourselves).

• Refuse to offer assistance.

• To be surprised and to argue if you are complimented or praise your work, whatever it is.

Instead, try to find time regularly to:

• Rest after work for at least half an hour and take a shower before commencing the day-to-day household chores.

• Quietly sit in front of a mirror and talk with your reflection, better to consider yourself loved.

• At least once a week to do some cosmetic procedures at home or in the salon.

• Read your favorite books or watch a movie.

• Cook exactly the dishes that you like.

• Meet with your favorite girlfriends or people you know.

• Spend the weekend as planned.

• Dress and behave as your taste dictates, not the whims of a husband or mother-in-law.

Of course, the first time to perform these items will be difficult. But the habits are so called that to behave in a new way you need to get used to. Simply every time something inside of you will resist the conceived, remind yourself, why did you decide to take such a step? Because you are alone. But you try to keep your health and peace of mind for the sake of many. This is a high goal, and it must continue to follow necessarily. And then you, find inner harmony, because you stop complexing and learn to love yourself.

And further. All your environment deeply in heart understands that from you, and only from you, their further well-being depends. More often remind them that they will lose, if you fail. And soon they will begin to cherish and cherish you.