Each kid, having barely learned to walk, strives to bring order to the house in his own way - in the closet and nightstand, in the pan and boot. He, trying to imitate adults, waving a broom and crouching on the floor with a rag, argues to tears, trying to win the right to wash a cup or a plate. Only at such a tender age a child is able to get a real pleasure from bringing the house in order. It is at this time, parents do not even have to think about how to accustom a child to accuracy - everything happens by itself. And let a puddle of water on the floor, and garbage is poured around the bucket. The main thing is to reinforce the enthusiasm of the young assistant with praise: "Thank you, dear! And what would I do without you ?! "
Unfortunately, much more often in response to the economic initiative of their children, we say something different: "Do not bother me," "Do not climb," "Go play. You're still small. " A few years will pass and in the dialogue with the child there will be phrases: "Take care of yourself!", "You must", "How many can be repeated, you are already an adult". And now the child already does not want to, is capricious, protests, because he is not used. "You are big. You have to help your mother, "one child hears one day. But what was once forbidden and desired, has now become a boring obligation.
Make a neat habit
"The habit is second nature," says the popular wisdom. For a child, the usual rituals are the basis and reliability of his life. Change with age the established stereotype of behavior to the child is too difficult. However, the same as an adult. Want to accustom your child to accuracy? Turn the cleaning to the day mode - let it become the same routine as brushing your teeth or everyday washing your hands before eating.
Work in the company is twice as easy
Alone, even the lightest labor sometimes seems too hard for a child. If an eight-year-old child is required to regularly sweep the floor, this job may seem unbearably heavy to him. But it's worth cleaning up other members of the family, as things have become much nicer and easier.
Do not throw the baby one on one with a home mess. Pity him, get to work together. You yourself will be surprised with how happy the kid is to clean up, clean, wash. Do not be afraid to dilute the child with attention! On the contrary, you will teach him to empathize and help.
Work does not tolerate haste
We often do not have five minutes of free time just when the baby decided to help. Someone immediately give up the nerves: "Do not bother, step aside!". Someone after a couple of minutes: "See how bad you've washed. I wish I had done it myself. " The second option is much worse than the first one, since it destroys not only the initial initiative, but also the child's faith in their strength. Imagine how insulting it is when someone reworks before your very eyes the work that you just did!
Do not rush when the baby immediately wash up the dishes, re-wash things. Do not ridicule his ineptitude, do not scold him for accidentally breaking a cup or because the water has poured out on the floor: this can happen to everyone! Skillful and agile overnight do not become. It is always easier to acquire everyday experience, when it is generously flavored with praise. Do not be afraid to praise a child. Always thank him for help, for diligence, for support. They are indeed valuable to us.
More variety!
Many of us are familiar with "avral", periodically comprehending the house before big holidays. On such days, mother, usually, goes to the kitchen to cook something unusual, special, the children are always instructed only one thing - to get out of the apartment. And they, for sure, would like to conjure with my mother to create new dishes.
Children do not tolerate monotony. And it's just not fair to constantly throw your unloved work on them. If you want a child to always be happy to respond to a request for help, give him the right to choose. "Today we have to wipe the dust and clean up the bathroom. What do you choose? "
Watch Yourself
Children do not like to clean up after themselves? Whining, capricious, shirk all available ways? And how do you relate to domestic responsibilities yourself? Were there no instances when you complained in voice: "How did I get fed up with these cleanings, pans, laundering, cooking!" Does your child arrange things in places with the expression of a martyr on his face? Look at yourself in the mirror before taking care of putting things in order in the house. Did not you find this sorrowful expression familiar? So, perhaps, your child is taking an example from you?