When the question arises: how to tell parents about pregnancy, the advice of a psychologist will be very helpful. After all, girls often expect from the psychologist detailed recommendations and step-by-step instructions, they hope that the specialist will solve all their problems with one stroke of a magic wand and tell the best way how to act in this situation, and they will listen to the advice and follow it. In fact, this is not so, and the psychologist is the first thing a person who will help you understand, will push you to a decision. It's up to you to decide how you should handle this situation.
Therefore, first, after learning about pregnancy, figure it out. Find out how you feel about it, whether you are ready to become a mother, or whether you are more likely to have abortion, whether your partner and parents are ready for your pregnancy, try to predict their reaction. Thinking about how you are going to continue to act, what will happen to your studies or work, who will take care of the child and are you ready to educate him. Analyze all aspects of your pregnancy, assess the situation and make a clear, measured plan of your actions, be sure of them. It is much better if you hold a conversation with your parents, having a clear plan of action and position, than when you fall into a panic before them or confess that you have no idea about what awaits you. If you find it difficult to understand yourself, you can turn to a psychologist, or, if there is no such possibility, to an adult person whom you very much trust.
If your pregnancy is not for you unplanned, you and that partner are in good relations, each of you wants this child and is ready to raise him, as well as take care of the future family, but parents are not ready for your pregnancy, talk with them will not be special work. If you do not want to upset them, do not be mistaken yourself - this is your future and your choice, if you are ready for this and are confident in your preference, they should support you. Or do you want to wait six or seven years, when your relatives are ripe for this step? Guided by your choice, tell them about your plans and desires. They simply may doubt your ability to support a family, or simply not be prepared for such a change. Explain the situation to them, put in real facts that everything will be fine, and that the changes will only go for the best, tell about the pros of the situation, your desires. Remember that parents are not your enemies, they lived their lives, understand you and always support in a difficult moment.
But what if the pregnancy is unplanned? What if you were not ready for this? As mentioned before, well comprehended their next actions and make up their plan. If you decided to keep the pregnancy and raise your child by yourself, be sure in your decision, plan how you will get an education, who will look after the child. You can transfer to the correspondence form of study, and study at home - and also successfully finish the university. Parents will help you look after the child, teach him how to educate, the main thing is your desire, self-control and common sense.
Do not be afraid to tell your parents about pregnancy, they are your best friends and closest people. No one is as they will not help you in the situation with the child. Your news may be a shock to them for the reason that they are worried about you and your future, and they may be scared by changes in your life, your future and the future of your child. Talk to them calmly, choose the right moment, your speech is confident and constructive, understanding. Predicting their fears and reproaches, try to explain in advance the way out of the difficult situations that you are facing, provide them with full understanding and respect. Be ready for an ambiguous reaction, but try and understand your parents, put yourself in their place.
Listen carefully to their advice, try to hold a conversation with them, solve together all the problems, find the best way out of this situation. Remember, parents are your allies, not enemies, and you should not be afraid of them and their reactions, try to understand them and help them understand you. If you do not agree with them on some questions - explain to them why you think so, that, in your opinion, it will be better, rather than just rest on your opinion. Exercise determination, responsibility and courage, most importantly, always remain in harmony with yourself.
How to tell parents about their pregnancy, what are the main tips of a psychologist? The most important rule here is be frank and honest with them. Do not think of any other reasons for the outcome of the situation, why it happened, say it as it is. If you are afraid of something, do not know some details, you are unsure of some problems - do not be afraid to ask questions, as well as give answers to the most intimate of them. You must trust your parents and ask them for mutual trust. Show that you rely on them and that you are frank with them, that, first of all, you respect their choice. The main thing - do not be afraid of anything and be sure of your decision, never lose hope for the best and remember that from any situation you can find a way out.