It is worth paying attention to the fact that if a child once used an indecent word and forgot about it, then panic should not be raised. Such a moment can be equated with randomness. But if you repeatedly pay attention to the fact that a lexicon most frequently used abusive words, it is worthwhile seriously approaching this issue. It is important to understand the situation and correct it.
Where can these statements appear?
Child, like a sponge, absorb everything that surrounds him, any existing atmosphere serves as an example for his further behavior. And while for the child there is no difference, good is an example or a bad one. After a small age is not able to produce a kind of filter of good or bad words. Indecent words your baby can hear on TV, in a certain broadcast or in a broadcasted film that parents watched without paying attention to the content of the statements. The source of interesting sayings could serve as a kindergarten, where the child goes, and also the speech of the parents themselves.
Often, parents are unconsciously expressed using all sorts of parasitic words. At the same time, they become idle, that their children become their reflection. Proceeding from the fact that the children are very fond of imitating adults, the new words they hear begin to enter into the child's speech.
Inappropriate words include obscene expressions, as well as words of rough estimation, of a verbal and offensive nature. To the words-parasites it is possible to refer to the slogan articles, which are completely out of place in the children's speech. To such words it is possible to give an example: "cool", "wow" and so on.
For what reason does the child begin to operate with uncultured expressions?
It is very common for children to actively use words or expressions in their speech, and at the same time, the remarks of caregivers or parents do not help at all, or they are suspended for a short time. But the words of uncultured origin are again returned to the vocabulary of the baby, who already consciously uses them in his speech. The reasons for which the child begins to express themselves are very multifaceted, but if they can be identified, the problem can be eliminated much easier and in a shorter period.
It is believed that children under five years of age use such words at an unconscious level. They do not understand their meanings and perceive them as words of ordinary origin. For children, the reaction of the parents themselves is very important when they hear uncultured sayings. It is impossible to inflate this great event, the reaction must be more adequate.
All children, using certain words in the speech, are waiting for the reaction from adults, whether they will be able to attract attention in one way or another. It is possible that your baby expects to see from you exactly a violent reaction. And in the event that the reaction is calm, the child will very quickly lose interest in these words. It is necessary to explain that you, for example, are upset when you hear such little words from your little son or daughter. It is important to remember that you can not abuse the ugly words.
After the age of five, children become more intelligent and are ready to understand when you explain how much these words are ugly to pronounce and to hear. The child will feel guilty if, after your comments, he continues to express himself vseravno. Therefore, if the child does not cease to use a word of abusive origin, then here is the reason for the psychological plan.
It is worth noting that a similar situation is very common in parents who are always engaged in work, business negotiations, anything, but not children. Thus, the child tries to attract the attention of adults. Such children have very many inner feelings and problems. Thus, the child tries to protect himself by any means, even if by attention of this nature.
In this situation, it is important to overestimate your relationship with the child, try to give him more time and attention. So the problem will be solved by itself.
There is also an option when a child tries to imitate adults, or older children, who often have eyes on him. Any baby, when repeating bad words, wants to seem more mature and serious. Thus, these sayings cause in the child an association with a strong and confident person.
Of course, to protect the child to the full extent from others is impossible. The best option here is to create in the child a correct understanding of good words, which really can characterize a person from the best side. It is necessary to call the right associations. Seriously consider what your child sees on the television. It is important to try to avoid cruel scenes, as well as closely monitor the words that are used by the characters.
Compensation as a battle
It also happens that swear words can serve as the release of a kind of couple, at the time of communication with peers and relatives. If a child is reproached for not being able to reach the expected in one degree or another, then protection comes on his side, an indecent speech appears in the roller. Or the child reconciles with the fact that he is good and tries to comply with this status.
After all, every child wants to become the best for his parents, he wants to match the likes and dislikes. But if the parents say to him: "you are a lazy person", "you are naughty", etc., the child tries to observe the image set by adults.
Understand the situation in this way it is possible with the help of parents who need to reconsider their requirements for the child and learn how to follow their sayings in his address, as well as in general.
How to behave to parents?
The most productive way is to eliminate the very causes of indecent speech. Do not neglect the rights of your child. It is very important to look at it and feel its every step. It is necessary to let the child understand how unique it is, to help develop its talented sides.
It is important to remember that parents are the very first example of imitation for a baby.