Revenge is ...
Revenge is a very strong emotion, but not one that gives joy. It can rather be compared with the painful condition that happens to us during a cold. Revenge has great power over man, almost like love - it can make us perform unthinkable acts, for which then it is often a shame.
Despite the fact that the desire to take revenge causes an upsurge of energy and strength, these feelings are disastrous for a person. This is a sign that a man speaks of pride, that he has a lot of sick places and complexes, hitting which a person stops controlling himself. In most cases, revenge is unjustified, and the actions of offenders are not worth the attention.
But sometimes the desire to take revenge becomes the impetus that forces people to do good things rather than bad, for example, to achieve something more than they have, to become a better person, to win a better place in life.
Reasons for revenge.
In order to have a desire to take revenge, a small reason is enough. Each of us goes through resentment, betrayal, jealousy - all this can become a sufficient reason for revenge. Sometimes, for the outbreak of hostilities, there is no need at all for any reason, it all depends on the character of the person.
But however, a person who is completely satisfied with his life can not take offense at the little things that sometimes happen to everyone. Revenge is often the result of a minor act that simply touched someone's pride.
Revenge often accompanies another unpleasant feeling - envy. Out of envy, not the best deeds are done, and the desire to take revenge can arise simply because someone's business is better than yours. This behavior is typical of weak and insecure people who are easily succumbed to someone else's influence.
In our society, revenge is not accepted, it is not spoken openly, but the desire to revenge is being suppressed. How to act in unpleasant situations - revenge or forgive, everyone decides for himself.
Defeat yourself.
Do not be ashamed if you have done something bad, which caused a desire to hurt painfully in response, this is a normal reaction, akin to self-defense. It's another matter if such a desire arises sometimes on an equal footing, in this case it is necessary to fight against oneself, otherwise there is a great risk of making many stupid mistakes.
So that you do not become an evil and vindictive person, first of all, you need to be able to forgive and adequately assess the amount of damage with what you are going to do in return. Revenge does not make anybody happy - neither those who take revenge, nor those who suffer from revenge, this is always a source of trouble.
Sometimes in a conflict situation, revenge may seem like the most correct decision. But think that with her help, what will be the benefit, except that your pride will be satisfied? Will not it become worse after your actions?
Sometimes it is better to try to solve the problem peacefully or simply ignore the abuser.
Serving rules.
If there is no other way out, and you definitely decided to take revenge on someone, you should think about how to file revenge and how it will be "eaten".
The first rule is to act on the basis of what kind of offense was inflicted on you. Do not try to do a lot of muck.
The second rule is the law. If your plans do not include fast imprisonment, leave any thoughts that contradict the civil and criminal code.
The third rule - do not rip off the evil on your loved ones. If someone has hurt you, then he should be responsible for his actions, and not everyone counter.
The fourth rule is time. Immediately after you are offended, do not start revenge. The abuser is waiting for this and is ready to defend himself. Wait for a while, let your opponent calm down, and at this time you will find the most effective way of revenge.
But before you start taking revenge, think again. Are you sure that the game is worth the candle? Think about how you will look from the outside, will not you be ashamed later, will not your attempt to take revenge something terrible? And, most importantly, it is worth remembering that only really strong people find it possible to forgive the offender or pretend that he simply does not exist. They do not descend to the level of offenders and do not stain their hands with questionable ways of revenge.