You can not deny, nevertheless, that children are different. Not every karapuz is so easily succumbed to persuasion, distracting maneuvers and other maternal tricks. It is important not just to "trespass ahead", but take into account all the features of your baby. The most important moment in weaning from a pacifier is the age of the child. It must be taken into account necessarily, otherwise efforts will be wasted, and sometimes you risk even to build up the psyche of your child. And this is not an exaggeration.
From 6months to a year
From one side - this is the best time to learn from a pacifier. It is during this period that the weaning occurs more painlessly and quickly. But on the other hand - the baby begins to cut his teeth, begins to feed, which leads to new problems with the tummy, but the sleep and the sleep at this time is changing. Moods are unavoidable, and here they also try to deprive their loved one of subjects-many of them can not cope with all this. Of course, just throwing a pacifier out of the window, seeing how the baby is suffering without it is not an option. What to do?
Psychologists advise at this time to create for the baby some pleasant rituals. Especially it concerns going to sleep. The approximate scheme is as follows: the child was bathed, put in a bed, turned off the upper light, leaving the favorite night light, sat down next to him with a smile, gently stroked, sang a song. All individually, but in one the children are similar - the rituals soothe them. Of course, there should not be a dummy in such a ritual. Believe me, the baby does not so much need this piece of plastic, as far as he needs his mother's hands, her warmth and affection. If you will be next to us, and soul, if you will radiate peace and love - your little one will also calm down and fall asleep without a pacifier.
Many people are helped by a change in the situation. You can, for example, move to the grandmother for a week, and a pacifier just "forget" at home. In new conditions, among unfamiliar "scenery" the child for about one year forgets what he does not see constantly before his eyes. Later, such a maneuver may not work, but at this age - the principle "with a grudge ..." acts. Yes, and more: small children are extremely meteozavisimy. Few people know, but they react to seasonal changes much stronger than adults. In the old days wise people said: "Do not start important things in the winter." Today, scientists have proved righteous these words. At this time of year, the children are already overwhelmed with problems - reducing the light-day, reducing the number of walks, and lowering immunity. Do not add to that, and also the weaning from the nipple. Either do it sooner, or tolerate weighty. Perhaps, by that time, the next age stage of weaning the temperament will come. Here and tactics will be different.
From one year to two years
The child already understands perfectly that there is a dummy in the house, that it is pleasant, it calms down and it can be requested from the mother at any time. The most important thing at this time is to notify the child of a pacifier immediately, as soon as he whimpers. Try to reassure the music in another way. Best is the principle of distraction or switching of attention. The nipple during the period of discomfort is given to the child only in cases of extreme necessity - when he suddenly becomes frightened of something, when he is unwell or when very tired, but can not fall asleep. Immediately after stopping the crying or falling asleep, the nipple must be removed.
In this age, the child does not build long logical chains. He will not be able to remember his addiction to the nipple if he does not see her constantly before the eyes. The Kid will gradually learn to enjoy other things-communicating with mom, games, tactile contact with soft toys. The latter, by the way, is the best way to wean the baby from the nipple before going to bed. A fluffy friend next to me in the crib soothes me no worse than sucking a pacifier. Kids love to pour, nasknuvshis nose in a warm barrel teddy bear or kitten. It's dangerous to put the baby in such a way, but during this period - always please.
After two years
In this age the child already realizes the habit and mum needs to try on it "to play". There is simply no way to hide the baby's dummy - the kid knows that his favorite "sauce" is somewhere, that he does not want a toy or a cookie, but it's her. What should Mom do? Tell the kid a fairy tale of a miserable gnome, who now also needs a pacifier, as was necessary for him when he was very tiny. And get a dummy dummy completely nowhere, he cries, he is sad and bad. Children are kind by nature, compassion can solve the whole problem for you.
Want to speed up the process of weaning? Do this as carefully as possible. Try to "lose" a pacifier at home, look what will happen. If the child starts a real hysterics - immediately "find" the loss. Surely the crumb has a desire that you can perform.
Suggest that he get what the Wizard wants, which will make his dream come true in return for a pacifier. Maybe the child will be so shy that she will forget about the nipple on the same day. You can try and a more rigorous method - to cut a pacifier with scissors (only not in the eyes of the drowsy). In doing so, explain to the child that all old things get spoiled sooner or later, when they cease to be needed. Say: "You've grown up already, the nipple is no longer necessary for you - here it is," she said. If the baby does not realize that you can buy a new one, he will soon quickly lose interest in the dummy.
Here is another way: you can "damage" a dummy gradually, cutting off from her a little bit every day, until there is only a ringlet left. To all the questions of the music, answer that some little animal-mother needed a papilla for her young children, so she dragged his nipple to pieces.
Perhaps the crumb for some other time this ring will carry with it, even fall asleep with it, but gradually the habit will be forgotten. If the family has a younger child, then you should ask the eldest to give the nipple to the baby. Say that the little nipple is suddenly lost, and he is too big to cope without it. Make an emphasis on this "you're already big," but just say it with pride, in the form of praise, and not in the form of humiliation: "Ehta, so big, and ask for a suck."
It is necessary to weed out the child's abolition, according to his age. This is the main rule. With the toddler of the year, the emphasis should be on his reflexes and natural needs, up to two years-to be cleverly deceived, after two - to try to negotiate. And it is important to understand that all children are completely different. Do not go on about the generally accepted opinion, certain norms and average rules. Listen to your baby's heart - it will not deceive and will not fail