It is known that the psychology of men and women are often mutually exclusive concepts. The representatives of the fair sex in marriage appreciate, above all, emotional stability. Marriage for them is a love for the spouse and children, greater independence in finances, and, of course, the opportunity to rely on the strong shoulder of the man. A man views marriage as a means of gaining more comfort. Naturally, feelings for the family are also present, the man loves both his wife and children, but ... smoothed shirts, clean socks in the chiffonier, cleanliness and order, a tasty supper after a hard day's work, cozy home. It was actual, there is and will be. Unfortunately, the realization of these small, seemingly everyday pleasures usually comes in a couple of weeks - after the wife said "forgive, good-bye ..." and left her husband.
At first, wounded pride will yell at the top of his voice with claims for compensation for damage. A huge rarity when a man can painlessly realize the fact that he was abandoned. Rarely when a question appears in the mind: "How is she without me?" More often than not, a man, with full approval of his pride, tries to understand who took his wife away from him, because of whom she left him, so beautiful and necessary. Self-expression with minimal participation of imagination gradually formulates the idea that the man himself expelled his ex-wife, that he will perfectly cope without it, and that in general she is to blame.
With this "cart" usually sent for moral support to one of the friends. Naturally, in such a state I want to speak out, reminisce about pleasant moments from my life together, reproach the "wrong" in my care. And at some point, unable to restrain the truth. What, how and for what happened in fact. They are good friends, they will sympathize, and they will understand and offer help, and first they will help to heal nerves with the help of vodka.
And here is the result - the friends went to their families, but the vodka still remained. Well, do not give the same product to spoil? It is necessary to finish drinking, and go to the nearest store for another bottle. And there's one more ... and so on. On the face of all signs of a classic binge.
Although a different scenario is possible. Download yourself at work so that when coming home to fall face down in the pillow and barely break away from her in the morning under the loud alarms of the alarm clock. To start happily taking overtime, surprising colleagues and superiors, to become a real workaholic, though there is one "but" here. If your colleagues are not aware of the reasons for such official zeal, they can try to survive you from your workplace. And who wants to look pale in the eyes of the authorities?
There is another extreme, into which the abandoned men fall with great relish. It is possible to spin several novels at once with an unconscious purpose to prove to myself and the whole world (the departed wife) that "I like the man, how I need it!" Unfortunately, those who choose such a line of behavior do not realize that they are very comical in their aspirations. That the novel is not needed for one night, neither to him, nor to a serious woman. A long relationship immediately after parting with a man with whom you have lived a lot under one roof almost impossible thing.
If your wife left you for another, the best thing is that you can do it with a cold head and, without screwing up your eyes, understand why your wife left you. You can consult a psychologist, this is quite a good option. And ... try to fix it. Just because everyone should cherish his half. She, despite the fact that she left too, is not easy.