I had to summon a former prince and now Gorynycha to the carpet. Out of flame and paying attention to the risks of kissing the amphibians, he set to work on the story of how the sleeping beauty, after waking up, dispersed so that it would be better not to wake up, and how she loves her mirror more than his horse and refuses to give the heir. And ... asked to help avoid divorce. And I thought about the psychological essence and duality of the meaning of the term divorce between spouses.
Divorce has no reason
More often divorce is decided in adulthood, when people are more independent in making their decisions. Young people rarely make categorical conclusions and are more romantic. They have not yet encountered the realities of life and can still afford a "pure" love relationship.
From the scientific point of view, falling in love is a biochemical process that signals at the hormonal level that a potentially suitable partner has been found for the continuation of the genus. But nature I can not support us infinitely. The biochemical breakdown of the components of love is an average of 18 months. After that, we begin to discover in the chosen one human weaknesses, negative sides and unpleasant surprises. Now we see that his wife has a long nose, strange smells from him, he does not know how to listen and does not tolerate children's tears.
It's difficult for me to divide the causes of divorce into women's and men's, because I'm used to treating marriage as a relationship between two people that make up a whole. We need at least two to dance tango, and if the dance does not work, then both partners are to blame, and each of the "bad dancers" is hampered by something of their own. From the practice I can only say that women are easier and more forgiving betrayal of a partner than men. Ukrainians stand until the end, until life becomes completely unbearable. Among the "female" causes of divorce is often the abuse of alcohol by a partner. Our men are ready to go for a divorce, if their status changes so much that they think that their wife no longer fits.
The attitude towards divorce between spouses has changed and this is in principle good. Marriage should not be a "bond", and a divorce is a crime. Perfect marriage is a free, harmonious combination of two lives, and if something does not work out right away, we should take a second chance.
The reverse side of the coin is the inadmissibility of irresponsible destruction of the family, without special consequences, which is still possible in our legal system. In the West, the number of divorces is significantly lower than ours, and not because they do not deteriorate their relationships, but because the legal and financial consequences of the rupture of the marriage are so significant that marriage is a very serious step. People simply do not marry, if they are not ready for such a step, because no one forbids them to be together.
Today's statistics are quite natural, but at the same time I believe that it is not as tragic as it seems at first glance. Strange as it sounds, often a divorce is a blessing, the beginning of a new life, another attempt to find happiness.
Marriage is a responsible step, so before taking such a step, everything should be carefully considered and agreed upon.