Treason, perhaps, is the most terrible and undesirable thing that can be in a relationship. And when a partner changes, pain and suffering, anger and hatred torment a person. In this situation it is very difficult, but it is necessary to make yourself calm down and not give in to emotions. After all, anger, as you know, is not the best adviser. And in order not to break wood, you need to rationalize everything and understand. Also do not find out all the details of what happened. Why do you need to know this? Why make yourself worse? After all, you will agree, it is much easier to forgive the fact of betrayal than all the details that will torment you for a long time. There is no justification for change, it is always immoral and immoral. But still a lot of people are worried about the question: if all this happened, can you forgive treason?
On this account, there are many opinions. Some are inclined to the fact that if you did once, then it will continue. Others offer a chance. In any case, you need to clearly understand that the change is more to blame than the partner who has changed. Yes exactly. After all, people do not change just so it means that they did not like something in the actions of the partner, something was missing. Therefore, you need to understand yourself and forgive not your partner, but yourself. Forgive me for not trying to improve relations. And when a person realizes this, he will have a chance to fix everything and return lost happiness and extinguished feelings.
There is an opinion that treachery is driven by monotony, that sooner or later everyone "walks to the left." This is fundamentally wrong. Who prevents to diversify their lives and renew their relations? For this you need only a desire and a little imagination. Try to compare treason with dismissal from work. Do they dismiss the initiative staff, who help the organization to develop by its actions? Of course not. Or another example. Will you go to the cinema where you play the same movie every day? Naturally, you will look for variety. Therefore, if your relationship is a strict plan that can not be violated and which must be adhered to, then the partner will naturally go in search of new sensations. But they can be updated together. There is a huge number of options how to throw out adrenaline. It can be a jump with a parachute, a hike in the mountains, and a walk on the boat. It all depends on your preferences.
And if you forgive the betrayal of a partner only in words, without understanding yourself, then such relations will not last long anyway. Sooner or later they will have to end anyway. After all, in this case, the partner will not be able to reproach you for anything, point out your shortcomings, as anger and hatred will continue to boil and you will respond to any of his reproaches, splashing out your emotions. Also, the partner will be constantly reminded of his deed, and he decides that it is easier and better to start a new relationship that will not tire, in which there will not be constant quarrels and checks.
Errors and shortcomings should be sought in yourself. And in general, betrayal is like a disease. It is better to prevent. Do not wait for your partner to become discouraged in a relationship, act immediately. After all, it is quite logical that if there is no reason, there will be no betrayal. Try to guess the wishes of a loved one, if it does not work out, then in the end, learn them. And act. And then your life and your relationships will bring you only happiness and joy, and you will not be questioning, you must forgive betrayal or not.