Do not rush
The child is constantly evolving. This process can be very active, but at other times it seems to freeze, gathering strength for the next breakthrough. Therefore, adults should allow themselves to "reconcile" with what the child is now. Do not hurry, do not insist, do not immediately correct everything, become different. It is worthwhile, on the contrary, to listen to the child, to observe, helping him to rely on his positive aspects, and to support when weaknesses appear. "
Benefit from mistakes
It is not mistaken, as you know, the one who does nothing. The converse is also true: whoever does something is mistaken. At least sometimes. Instruct the child to analyze the reasons for failure so you will teach him to clearly understand what exactly led to the error. Specify what remains to be misunderstood, ask for a remake at home exercise.
To recount a poorly learned lesson
Be ready and re-explain the essence of the recently passed material. " But never do the job in his place, do it with the child. Well, when the joint creativity concerns complex and creative tasks, a project on biology, a review of a book or an essay on a free subject. Discuss new ideas with him, search together literature, information on the Internet. Such ("business") experience of communication with parents, new skills will help the child to become more self-confident, try, make mistakes and himself to look for new solutions. There is nothing more soothing and restoring than the moments of joint activities with the family. Together to cook, tinker, organize games, watch and comment on the transfer or film so many invisible, but fundamental ways of learning! Sharing opinions, comparing oneself with others, sometimes opposing each other - all this helps develop a critical mind that, in turn, helps to look at the situation from the side and keep stress away.
Plan Together
At what time is it better to do the lessons, to start first for the easiest or most difficult, how to properly organize a workplace - it is parents who must teach the child to plan his daily life. This will help him make decisions more easily, become calmer - he will stop sitting at his desk at the last minute before going to bed. Discuss with him his work, explain what and for what it is necessary, why it is worth organizing this way. Over time, the child will learn how to plan his own time and organize space. But first, parents should show how this is done, and do it with him.
Create motivation
The child is interested if he understands well why he is studying. Talk to him about everything that fascinates him. Remind: success comes, if we love what we do, we enjoy it, we see the point. " This will help the child understand their desires, better understand their interests. Do not demand much, if we ourselves learn, read, learn new is not very interesting. Conversely, actively demonstrate your curiosity for the new, if you study all your life. You can draw his attention to the knowledge and skills that he will need for the realization of a child's dream. Do you want to be a film director or a doctor? At the director's faculty, they study the history of fine arts and literature. A doctor must necessarily know biology and chemistry ... When there is a prospect, the child has a strong desire to quickly get to his dream. Fear disappears, and learning becomes more interesting.
To educate without suppressing
Do not get irritated because of failures and avoid excessive guardianship - so you could formulate a double rule of pedagogy. The child learns to ride a bicycle. When he falls, are we angry? Of course not. We reassure and encourage him. And then we run alongside, supporting the bike, and so on until he goes himself. It is also worthwhile to do the school affairs of our children: to explain what is not clear, to talk about what is interesting. Do with them something exciting or difficult for them. And, feeling the child's counteractivity, gradually weakening one's own - so we freed him the space for independent development.