Jealousy destroys relationships in the family. What is jealousy? This feeling is a testament to passion or vice versa, the main sign of mistrust of a partner? Jealousy is completely different and always affects people in different ways. You need to learn how to deal with this feeling correctly and accurately.
Jealousy for your young man
At last Sveta became a married woman. After the wedding, she moved to live with her new husband and began to equip the house with a family nest, a home, because the bachelor apartment was very lack of warmth and comfort. When cleaning the apartment, Sveta found a large package of photographs, which she naturally looked at. After that, she went to another room and poured herself a cognac, which she drank with a volley. And all because her newlywed in all the photos was imprinted with another girl, in a cafe, on the beach, in a park ... Sveta knew at the time that this girl from the photo, his ex-lady, but strangely enough, she did not get any better from this. Sveta has already decided that when her husband comes home from work, then instead of dinner she will throw him a scandal. The words that it is very foolish to be jealous of a person towards his past did not work in the Light.
Why does this happen?
Such situations certainly happened to each of us. After all, we all perfectly understand that the girl's past girls, this is his past, which should not be remembered. But how can you not be jealous of a guy when our imagination clearly draws the situations that are happening now to you - that he whispered sweet words to him, that he hugged her, called gentle words?
At such a time, each girl begins to compare herself with her boyfriend's ex-girlfriend. It will bring nothing but pain. When you represent the former relationship of your partner, you with your own hands deal a direct blow to your heart. Jealousy destroys the relationship, it helps to reduce self-esteem, and thereby irritates your young man. You start digging into his past, when you could enjoy the current days and live happily.
What to do in such situations?
Remember that there will always be a person who will be much better than you. This is the law of life, but not a tragedy and take it as a given. But do not be hung up on this, and even more so, this situation should in no case affect your self-esteem, because we all have our own destiny, life.
For yourself, you need to remember: your beloved young man is with you by his own will, for his own reasons. After all, if he is with you, it means he is completely satisfied with everything in you and he likes being with you, and not with someone from other girls from his past. Past relationships have certainly served as an experience for your boyfriend, now he is as he is, past novels have allowed him to become much more experienced, wiser.
Jealousy. Is it love or sickness?
My neighbors are a good young couple, Olga and Igor. They have been married for 4 years, and all this time, Olga is thinking of divorcing her husband. The reason for this is Igor's jealousy. Her husband controls every step of her, at any opportunity, rolls scandals. Delay at work - a scandal, the purchase of a new dress and that can be the occasion for a scandal. Olga constantly has to justify herself, all her excuses are vain, and the words only cause new scandals and cause her husband anger.
Why does this happen?
In this case, jealousy has become obtrusive. Olga's husband is constantly haunted by the idea that he is being changed and his wife is not faithful to him. The main problem is that a jealous person is 100% sure of treason and he does not need any excuses and it is very difficult to convince such a person. Specialists called this state of man a "delirium of delirium." After all, such a person is very difficult to get out of this state and it is jealousy that destroys the relationship.
What to do in this situation?
If everything has gone so far that you have lost all friends and go to a beauty salon with your husband, then you should seriously think about whether you need such a relationship. It's your life and it's necessary to live it freely, enjoying every day, and not justifying yourself for every step you take before any person. If you think that you are behaving with your partner with dignity and tried with all your might to convince him of your loyalty, then nothing prevents you from a clear conscience to part with it. It will be wrong, if because of a loved one you will destroy your own life.
If you find it very difficult to understand your feelings, then you should contact a psychologist. And remember that jealousy destroys the relationship in the family. Trust your loved one and then you will live happily ever after.