Marriage of convenience: for and against

There is no love, it is necessary to enter into a marriage in accordance with the calculation, having thoroughly considered everything, and the arguments "for" such a marriage are certainly much stronger than the arguments "against". This is a fairly common opinion has always been, although only recently it was discussed openly. In ancient times, such marriages were the norm and were not even discussed; in the twentieth century they were considered philistine vulgarity - so disgusting that one should not talk about them. And only in the last few years there was an opportunity to openly discuss all the pros and cons of marriage by calculation.



Many women are sure that only the oligarch can make them happy. If not the oligarch, then at least the owner or director of some firm. Others rightly believe that the oligarchs are not enough for everyone, and that they will have enough men with their own living space and a decent salary, or one that can help them in building a career. Leaving aside the moral aspect (everyone understands that we were taught in childhood not to this, but since the woman decided to marry by calculation, she also decided the moral side of the matter for herself), we will weigh the pros and cons of marriage by calculation: it often happens that the expectations of a woman who entered into such a marriage, do not come true.

The undoubted advantage of marriage by calculation is that a woman is not blinded by feelings, which means that she can objectively evaluate her chosen one, understand what he has to offer her, and what she is ready to offer in return.

But the calculation is sometimes not justified. For example, a woman marries because of an apartment, and only then (and well, if not after the wedding) finds out that the apartment in which this man lives is not his, but belongs to one of his relatives. Or, for example, marrying a rich but old man for the sake of inheritance, a woman may not even suspect that he has a family from his first marriage, and they will get most of the property. In this case, the arguments "against" marriage by calculation substantially outweigh the arguments "for".

In addition, a man can even just deceive you. Here you see an expensive car and a man emerging from it in a beautiful and expensive suit, which also seems to be the director of the firm and clearly interested in you. And only after a long time he confesses that he is just the driver of the director, but he really wanted to impress you.

And if you really met a man with whom a marriage of convenience is really worth it, in time it may turn out that living with him is not at all sweet. He can completely ignore you, while sitting in the office during his working hours, and spending his free time with friends, and even questionable behavior of the girls, perceiving you only as the mother of his children, and at worst, as the thing he bought. Perhaps he will be jealous of you even for the lampposts (as long as you are young and beautiful, and he is no longer handsome and understands this perfectly), and maybe he is, although rich, but pathologically stingy and will require you to report for every penny spent.

So, entering into a marriage of convenience, "for" and "against" must be weighed very carefully. In addition to the fact that the man himself tells about himself, in order to avoid deception, you need to collect as much information about him from other hands. Also it is worth knowing in advance about the character of the future spouse. Even if you now think that for the sake of treasured material goods are ready and tolerated, the nature of it can turn out to be so disgusting that you will not want money or an apartment. In addition, it is worth trying to find in his character as many good features as possible, and make sure that you are cute to him, and that he takes you as his wife, and does not buy. In this case, the arguments "for" marriage on the calculation become more weighty than the arguments "against", and this marriage has a prospect. And over time - who knows - maybe you will love each other.