Own unrealized and dissatisfied with life
In the case when a woman is not satisfied with her life, she often tries to make her son "henpecked", so that at least he would meet her requirements. Not wanting to change their habits, the "unsatisfied" mother instills them into her boy, and he soon begins to look at the world with the eyes of his mother. Over time, the relationship between them is increasingly strengthened, and it is almost impossible to break it. Here there can be no question of any independence, because the son will not be able to take any more or less important decision without the advice of the mother.
Fear of negative influence on the child by peers
In childhood, when any child is interested in communicating with peers, grief-mother, contrary to common sense, tries to protect his son from them. At every opportunity, she focuses attention on the shortcomings of his friends, and against their backdrops in every way praises his child. By the same methods, the mother tries to protect the little son from friendship with the girls. She says: "It seems to me that Masha does not know how to behave", or "Tanya walks for too long in the yard". So the mother does, at first glance, innocent remarks, but over time the boy develops indifference to the female sex.
Distrust of school
Soon, the grief-mother is already reaping the first fruits of her upbringing, but she also finds an excuse for this. Educators and teachers begin to complain about the behavior of her child, and the mother at the same time justifies him, accusing in turn allegedly incompetent teachers. Such conversations often take place in the presence of the child, and each time he becomes more and more convinced of his own right and impunity, and the mother becomes the only friend and protector of the "baby".
One with the mother
Such a dictatorial mother and her "little" boy have a life for two. She wholly takes care of her son - she prepares, erases clothes, chooses an institute, and generally decides everything for him. The opinion of the son has long coincided with the point of view of the mother, so there is complete mutual understanding between them. If at some point the son breaks out from under his mother's wings, which usually occurs during the first serious love or accidental pregnancy of his girlfriend, the mother immediately begins to skillfully manipulate him. And in this case, even the fact that a girl can be in position will not save. Mother uses her little tricks in the form of staging heart attacks and pressure drops. If this does not help, the mother hurries to remind her son that she has dedicated his life to him and is giving a lecture on the sense of duty. In the end, the son returns under the wing, if only not to upset and not to irritate the mother.
What do we ultimately have?
"Adult child", who does not represent his life without a mother and who is unlikely to please any woman. And will someone be able to compete with the most "ideal" woman? "Mama's son" is unlikely to trade a happy life with her mother for marriage with any woman. Therefore, in this case, it is not necessary to say that such a man can build his own happy independent life.