Have you ever met sexual egoists? As it turned out, more than 60% of women are familiar with such individuals. However, first let's see who it is, actually, such.
By definition of women, a sexual egoist is a man who during sexual intercourse performs actions aimed at obtaining his own pleasure, absolutely not taking into account the feelings of the partner. That is, in fact, such a man commits a primitive animal act of self-satisfaction with the help of a female body.
Due to my sociability and sociability, my whole life turned out so that my friends and acquaintances were always happy to share with me their sexual problems and problems, considering me to be experienced and judicious in this field. The theme of sexual egoism has floated repeatedly in our conversations over a cup of coffee. We came to the conclusion that almost all women from our environment were confronted with sexual egoists. Moreover, we found that some women simply do not want to notice the egoism of their partner because of their love for him, or do not want to admit to themselves and others that their sexual partner is selfish in bed. There is, of course, another category of girls who, due to their inexperience, can not determine that an egoist has been in their bed.
How to identify a sexual egoist?
Firstly, the sexual egoist will never ask how you like to do it, neither your favorite posture nor your erogenous zones will interest him. Secondly, he will necessarily care what you can do for him in bed (oral sex, if he likes it, anal). Most likely, if you say that you do not like something that he prefers in bed, he will either stop communicating, or he will still try to make you do it.
Basically, sexual egoists believe that women get orgasms always during sexual intercourse, but most of them do not think about the question of female orgasm at all, then they are egoists. In bed, they usually behave typically for egoists: they do not look at the partner's face, because her emotions do not excite them, do not try to hold back the approaching orgasm, can command, tell how you should lie down or become.
How to avoid sexual selfishness?
Most importantly, in my opinion - one must learn to be open and frank, to learn not to be ashamed to tell a man about one's desires and first of all to love oneself. Acquiring in my life is not a small experience with men, I developed my method of getting rid of selfishness in bed. When the relationship is already at the time of discussion of the upcoming sex, I put forward my theory of a harmonious relationship. I'm talking about how I treat sex as an art, that I can bring an unimaginable pleasure to a man, but only if I see and feel that a man is trying to please me. Usually it works flawlessly: an avid egoist runs, afraid of sex with me, and men with signs of a sexual egoist try to follow my theory. If, after all, I got into bed with an egoist who did not escape and to which my theory of impression did not produce, I'm not afraid of declaring in the process of the act that I do not like something, I'm not afraid even to interrupt this act, because I hold the opinion that it's better to have no sex than sex with an egoist.
The most amazing thing is that most women are ready to put up with sexual selfishness, without even thinking about its consequences. They depict an orgasm, because they are afraid to appear frigid in the partner's eyes. Women who do not receive orgasm from a selfish partner often seek a problem in themselves, and this can lead to a number of complexes and the inability to receive orgasm from a good lover. Similarly, physiologically, sex without orgasm is harmful.
My cousin suffered a serious operation on the ovaries, she developed a cyst and fluid accumulation. When she turned to the doctor with a question: what the cyst could have come from, the doctor said that from sexual dissatisfaction. Sexual arousal should end with discharge, orgasm, otherwise the ovaries suffer. And my sister realized her problem: for two and a half years she met with a guy and regularly engaged in sex with him, without any pleasure. Externally, the guy was very attractive, than excited her to trembling in the body, but the sexual act with him was always the same: his movements were very fast and rhythmic, orgasm was attacking him after a minute and a half. My sister just did not have time with this technique and in such a short time to get an orgasm. That is, two and a half years of sexual dissatisfaction led her to the disease of the ovaries.
I repeatedly asked my friends the question - why do they meet or live with a man, from sex with whom they do not get any pleasure? Many are simply afraid to remain alone, some believe that they love a man, several friends think they are guilty of the lack of orgasm.
One of my girlfriends is very bright and sexy, which was always in the company of men, a year ago she confessed to me that she had thirty-eight sexual partners in her life and only with six of them she was able to get an orgasm! I was shocked, I never thought that she could have problems of this kind, however, she always said that with a man who did not like her in bed, the relationship no longer goes on and can throw it after the first unsuccessful sexual intercourse. Recently I met her, and we again touched on this topic. She told me that, it turns out, the reason was in her, but not in her physiology, but in psychology. Three months ago she met a man who turned out to be a great lover. Unattractive externally, he realized the truth that he can win a woman, being a good sexual partner, listening to the desires of a woman. He taught my girlfriend not to be ashamed of himself in bed, not to be ashamed to talk about his desires, about how it will be pleasant and if additional caresses are needed. For some reason they broke up, but after that the girlfriend said that she can get an orgasm with any man, because she became open and relaxed in bed, not hesitating to say that the partner is doing something wrong.
What my friend told me caused me to think about many things, and I realized that it is women who should be the mistress of the situation in intimate relationships with men, because men during orgasm get an orgasm in 80 cases out of a hundred, and women in 40 cases of a hundred. It turns out that sexual selfishness can be overcome or get rid of it in one's partner simply without embarrassment when discussing this topic frankly with him.
Often, we are afraid to admit to a partner that we do not experience orgasm, but only imitate it, thereby pushing the man to selfishness in bed, namely, there must be frank and open. After all, if you are not ashamed to lie with a man in bed, then feel free to tell a man how you like to do it, but how not - just silly. Yes, and the man himself often can not guess about our desires and behave like an egoist. Frankness is the key to successful sex in order to avoid sexual selfishness. And you also need to learn how to love yourself, not to be afraid of your desires, not to be ashamed of yourself in bed with a man, and then a lot of pleasure from sex is guaranteed to you. And no selfishness!