A term such as "asexuals" was recently introduced into the sex dictionary. But this does not prevent the spread of rumors that asexuality will be recognized as a new sexual orientation. But despite this, it is very difficult to believe that in the world there are people who are completely indifferent to carnal pleasures. Whatever it was, but the society is rapidly growing number of people who voluntarily completely exclude the presence of sex in their lives. Let's try to find out why this is so, and what exactly asexuals replace sex.
Life without sex: nidat, nor take
As a rule, asexuals are very different from each other. Among those who meet in the world are those who live in pairs, enjoying platonics, and there are those who have such a strong aversion to sex that they can not have any relationship with a man of the opposite sex because of this. Also you can meet and those who are inclined to compare life with a drug, and hence it follows that they do not want to get into dependence. Some of them live only for themselves, and some do not live normally for those who love sex.
Many asexuals claim that sexual contact completely breaks the worldview and distorts the value system in general. Are these representatives of the minority or majority inclined to replace carnal pleasures by masturbation-the mystery behind the seven locks. At least, aloud they categorically reject this occupation.
Where did the sex or did they always exist?
To date, asexuals are openly spoken, in addition, they themselves are inclined to speak loudly about themselves. And earlier, as a rule, not only about the opponents, but the admirers of this lesson were not accepted to speak out loud. Therefore, the question of when exactly people lost interest in sex, remains unanswered. But around him there is a lot of opinions and assumptions. For example, one of them was put forward by the professor at the University of Brock in Canada Anthony Bogart. According to his curious studies, it was found that 1% of the world's population are completely indifferent to the occupation. By the way, this percentage continues to grow! Apparently, there are special factors that affect the growth of asexuals. Here we can relate: persistent stress, hormonal disorders, complexes, negative sexual experience, which has brought psychological trauma - all these factors leave their imprint on the creation of sexual beliefs.
The opinion of the competent
According to the psychologist-sex therapist, the master of love etiquette and the Academy of Real Life, Victoria Alexandrova, the existence of such people is difficult to deny. These people can quite create quite harmonious, at first sight, couples. If this positionbuilds both partners, they can live happily and peacefully. But most often, these are people who suffer from physical and psychological disorders who need specialist help.
Regarding physical health (if a person does not suffer from various diseases and is not a monk), sex can give a person the energy necessary for active brain work. A hormone that is actively developed at the time of making love (endofirin) excellently raises the mood and helps to overcome depression and stress, which half reduces the likelihood of the heart attack.
But it's up to the women and men to decide whether to have sex together or not. In any case, he makes them happy, because they are accepted together. By the way, these couples can find different forms of interaction, which gives us the opportunity to feel the closeness not only of bodily caresses: joint interests, spiritual development, common hobbies, etc. All these exercises should, in the first turn, give both to a man and a woman, the closeness and necessity of a friend in a friend.
Individuals replenishing the asexuals
According to all the same studies, most often among the opponents of sex can meet people with higher education. And what is most curious, a certain percentage of these people are married, where there are already children.
But on top of all the lamentations of scientists, the asexuals themselves claim that they came to this decision, being in sound mind and memory. The most radical participants in this movement dream of a new, conditioned by the mind of society, in which there will be complete absence of any sexual relations, and children will be produced artificially.
According to all the same asexuals, sex can take away the multisil that could be sent to progress. Love in their understanding is comparable to a mental illness, a narcotic psychosis of the paranoid type that worsens on sexual grounds. A man in love is deprived of adequate perception. Life without sex, on the contrary, opens it up in another way to the world-eye and allows people to communicate in a pure way. By the way, the desire to find my second half speaks of low self-esteem.
In the opinion of asexuals, personal growth and reason are what should stand in the center of the vital worldview.
Very often asexuals refuse from sex, because. do not want to impose themselves on others. These people can be divided into two types: those who have never experienced sexual attraction, and those who have completely managed to get rid of it (expensive deliberate repression or long voluntary abstinence).
As a conclusion, you can say that if you never experience attraction to people of the opposite sex, you are never excited about thinking about sex, then you definitely fit the definition of asexuality.
Nevertheless, the lack of a sexual desire for other people will say that asexuals do not consider them aesthetically attractive, that's why their attitude to beauty is quite different, approximately as an art critic who saw the paintings of Leonardo da Vinci.
The principle here is that they tend to associate feelings and desire to be close to someone with carnal pleasures. From their point of view - this is a kind of friendship-love. It is for this reason that most asexuals will confirm the desire for intimacy and romanticism, but not bodily.
And with a desire or unwillingness to have children, this has absolutely no connection. As we have already said, many asexuals have children. If they are not, then the asexual can try to find a pair with the help of a special dating site for the joint development of the child. At the same time, it is theoretically conceivable to conceive a child naturally, but preference is given to artificial insemination. Of course, children are children, but the main purpose of this acquaintance is friendship, interesting communication on controversial topics, joint management of everyday life and mutual support.
Whatever you say, or unfortunately, whether fortunately, yoursexexuality is comprehended or thought that dozens, or even hundreds of people think, not only in adulthood (change of attitudes, crisis of the middle age, etc.), but and in the young. It is very difficult to make a guess where this trend will occur. But despite this, it can be stated that, perhaps, it is necessary to throw a shell of mystery on the sexual sphere and thereby kindle the prejudice of both sexes to each other again?