Such concepts as female libido and female coldness were first described by Sigmund Freud and formed the basis of psychoanalysis. Translated from the Latin "libido" means desire, attraction, desire, passion. Women's coldness, in turn, is the opposite state.
It is believed that the female libido is capricious and depends on a number of factors. Female genitals, unlike men's, are not in one place, but are scattered throughout the body. Because of subtle psychology, psychic organization, women's libido is subject to change and depends on many factors that can be divided into two groups - psychological and physiological.
Psychological factors
All of them are concentrated in the statement "an orgasm in a woman's head." The sexual attraction of a woman is influenced by the mood, the presence of the child near the bedroom, as well as sounds, smells, rustles, etc.
Physiological factors
These include the periods of the menstrual cycle. It was revealed that a woman feels a greater attraction before menstruation, rather than after it. In addition, a significant role is played by tactile sensitivity. Even the banal three-day bristles of a partner can be critical.
Factors contributing to the emergence and maintenance of libido in women
The main factors are:
- Trust relationship with a partner
- Absence of abrupt changes in the hormonal background.
- A stable psychological state, no depression (neither easy nor masking).
- Regular sex life. This is very important for maintaining the libido of a woman, especially since the rule "you tolerate more is better for the female" is not applicable.
- Sexual diversity. Make variety in your intimate life, change place, time of sexual amusements.
- Good physical health. The disease of any etiology is the enemy of sexual attraction. And it does not matter, it's a common cold or a chronic illness.
- Training of the muscles of the small pelvis. It is revealed that the constant performance of special exercises aimed at strengthening the muscles of the vagina and perineum, contribute to an increase in the libido of a woman.
- Healthy lifestyle. A sedentary lifestyle, sedentary work at the office does not help to increase the attraction of a woman. Therefore it is recommended to do walks, jogs, to play active games. This, on the one hand, will significantly increase the libido, and on the other, it will promote muscle training.
Sexual female coldness
Sexual coldness or frigidity, called the complete absence of sexual desire in women, as well as sexual feelings such as excitement, fantasy and orgasm. According to statistics, only 0.5% of women suffer from frigidity. Do not rush to rank yourself to their number after two or three setbacks in bed. Frigid woman lives without knowing the problems in bed, because she lives without sex. For such women, even the idea of intimacy is unacceptable, it is simply not interesting to her. In the same way as an ordinary housewife is not interested in the principle of the synchrophasotron.
The reasons for the lack of sexual desire in women
First, it is a disease of the genitourinary system. In case of discomfort and suspicion of an infection or other disease, you should immediately consult a doctor. Perhaps, after the course of treatment, a woman will feel the taste for life.
Secondly, psychological problems. They can go back to childhood when the girl had a very strict upbringing in the family. They can be the result of an unsuccessful first sexual experience, a shy or awkward partner. In these cases it is better to turn to a sexologist.
Third, the decline in attraction can be natural. For example, during pregnancy, many women lose all desire for intimacy, while others, on the contrary, crave it. Sexual attraction may be absent for 2 years. Do not worry, it comes back after 1-2 years after the baby has stopped breastfeeding.
Fourth, medication frigidity. Remember that some medicines can depress libido. And advertising about the increase in craving with the help of hormonal pills is only a marketing move.