From the very childhood we observe our parents, their behavior, habits, and then, already in adulthood, often involuntarily repeat their mistakes. Psychogenetics is a science that will help you determine which of your loved ones you are equating with. On this account, there are even proverbs and sayings: "In each house for whom", "Under each roof their mice" and so on. What does it say? Yes, that the influence of ancestors on our fate was noticed long before the emergence of genealogy and genetics. And even more so long before the emergence of psychogenetics, which is a kind of fusion of genealogy and genetics. Here is an example: you, of course, noticed that in our country mothers - even very young - are sometimes literally obsessed with the desire to feed their child. If a foreigner witnesses such a scene, he is not able to understand the logic of our mothers and grandmothers. His logic indicates that a human being can not die of hunger next to a full refrigerator - the instinct of self-preservation will not allow. So psychogenetics claims that this behavior of our women is a consequence of the "message of ancestors" about the lack of food, hunger, blockade, evacuation, card periods, which abounded in Soviet history. Aware of the problem, it can be solved. Psychogenetics - antisocial behavior, genotype or environment - we will answer this question in the article.
Fears of the fathers
Psychogenetics can be very relevant to your career. Sometimes there, in the distant past, hide the reasons for your current failure, insecurity and taboo. The trouble with Angelina was that she could not sit quietly next to the chef. No, this attractive man, an excellent family man and a fine boss did not want to pursue a poor economist at all. And the economist, being at each meeting, began to choke and look in his pocket for a balloon for asthmatics. The presence of an authoritarian man literally choked her. In contrast, the head of Angelina's husband was a gentle, shy, domestic man. With him our heroine was comfortable and cozy, she did not remember the attacks of suffocation. But when you came to work ... and started. For someone to go to the boss, she was ready to perform any additional work. And it would continue for a long time if Angelina did not fall down with a heavy inflammation of the lungs. It's good that a friend of mine discovered a familiar psychologist who was addicted to psychogenetics. He forced Angelina to interview all her relatives and raise dozens of family stories. It turns out that her mother still a tiny girl witnessed a truly Shakespearean drama: her father, respectively, Angelina's grandfather, in a fit of wild jealousy once nearly strangled her grandmother. It never happened again, moreover, no one ever spoke about it. Angelina's mother remembered how she herself was suffocating after quarrels with her husband, a strong and powerful person. But Angelina got this feature in the inheritance in a pronounced form.
Pedigree will tell
Prepare to the fact that not all family secrets can be quickly unraveled. But if you show patience, you will learn a lot of interesting things about yourself.
• Try to draw a family tree.
• Find out which of the ancestors left the most vivid memories, who in the family was an outcast, who is a martyr, who is a lucky person.
• Think about whose destiny echoes your current problems.
• If possible, visit the special seminar "Family Arrangement" according to the method of the Austrian psychoanalyst Bert Hellinger. The method is based on universal laws of family and gender. Of particular importance is the experience of Hellinger's work with tragic family histories. Very popular in our country.
• Remember that you can draw inspiration from the history of your family. In life, nothing is impossible, because you are from this family!
Healing
The treatment was difficult and time-consuming. In its basis lay the principle - you need to commit (mentally or in reality) a prohibited action and get a positive result. Angelina imagined scenes from the office life with the participation of the manager and simultaneously recalled the pleasant moments of her life, trying to connect them. When she did, the attacks of suffocation disappeared.
A living example
Eugene from childhood it seemed that the whole world is against her. She suffered from the injustice of others, and from her own low self-esteem. At the same time she was a trouble-free girl, and a lot of people, starting with the cleaning woman in the office, colleagues at work, finishing with close friends, used this. When Eugene became interested in family history, it turned out that her grandmother had nine children and, according to family legends, she was a kind, gentle person, strove to help everyone and make life easier. Mom Eugenia was a housewife and at the same time she helped all her acquaintances: sewed, sat with children, fumbled in the kitchen during strange family celebrations. It took a lot of time and did not bring satisfaction, as my mother always told her daughter. Eugene herself repeats the same family scenario already in the third generation. In this story, negative experiences are transmitted through stories.
Your script
If you are constantly inclined to minor domestic injuries and incidents, analyze the history of your parents, grandparents, as well as all your next of kin. What unfortunate and unpleasant incidents were in their lives and played a decisive role? Do not let them become a script and your life. But, on the other hand, maybe you have an aunt who bravely went to her husband in distant Siberia, someone has a grandmother who was early widowed, but put her three children on her feet - than not a reason to be inspired and take as an example for her own life.