Because of what there is an understatement about yourself?
Psychologists like to say that a low assessment of yourself now is a consequence of the wrong education of a child in childhood. After all, many problems in the present are closely related to events in the past. Perhaps, the understated self-esteem is connected with the fact that from the parents' nails parents praised little the child, worse, they were called and often criticized. Often, the father or mother can express their own unrealized or anger on the child. As a result, the child grows frightened, hunted and grows up with a lack of self-esteem. In order not to repeat the mistaken parents, it must always be remembered that any person demands respect for himself, even if it is your little son or daughter. Praise the child, grow it in an atmosphere of warmth, tenderness and love, even if you have certain life difficulties. Believe me, in the future the child will only thank you.
Another reason for low self-esteem may not be parents, but the influence of society. Again, the reason for such an attitude to yourself could most likely appear in the book, but not so deep, but in the adolescent period. Teenagers usually try to express themselves in various ways, to manifest their "I". But, as a rule, behind such an obvious demonstration of one's personality there is still not fully formed psihika, which is very receptive to the opinion of others. Very easily a girl or a young man who "differ" from their peers, may be subject to criticism and peer ridicule. Brutal jokes of classmates, mockery. ... An unstable child's psyche can "break" from such a brutal attack by peers and as a consequence, a teenager will have many complexes and insecurities.
Also, as nistranno, but the reason for a not very good opinion about yourself can become obsessive-thoughts, a desire that you are not like everything that you have something wrong with everyone. For example, as is known, the beautiful half of humanity is very morbid about its appearance and figure. A woman can be convinced that her ugly legs are uneven. She will constantly align herself with other representatives of her sex, with models on the cover of the magazine, with actresses on TV screens. As a rule, it is easier for a person to see the advantages in someone, but in himself, there are only shortcomings. It's not always possible to touch the appearance or figure, someone can consider themselves not smart enough, not sociable, not enough fun person. In the head, there will always be thoughts that someone is more fun, more sociable, and smarter.
What should I do to get rid of a low self-esteem?
First of all, you need to love yourself. Yes, yes. Most likely, you have heard this many times already or subtracted once in some popular book by a well-known psychologist. It's easy to say: "Love yourself", you will say, when you have spent all your lifewith the idea that you have a small chest, protruding ears or an inadequate sense of humor. But in fact, the truth is really to love and accept yourself, the way you are. Yes, at first it will be insanely difficult. But as they say, without difficulty you will not pull out a fish and a pond. It takes time for constant work on yourself, faith in yourself and then it will turn out all the same! It is also very important that at this moment, and not only, you are loved and loved by people. We must realize that as there are not two absolutely identical flowers, there are absolutely no identical people. It is necessary to try to love your shortcomings and make them not just their merits, but make them their special feature, a distinctive feature.
Try every day just to compliment yourself, to praise yourself. Of course, immediately it can not work out, because you lived for so many years, oppressing yourself. And you just repeat the compliments every day, try to hear positive feedback about you from other people. And one day, one day, when your body starts to perceive your praises for granted, and later you yourself will begin to believe that you are unique and unrepeatable. It is universally known that if a person is told a hundred times that he is a pig, then he is on the hook. And why can not we at least begin to try to say compliments to ourselves, to praise ourselves?
Never stand scolding yourself! Never. Even if you actually made a mistake - it's okay, just tell yourself that the next time you have it all will necessarily happen!
Watch then how you look: for sure you have slouching shoulders and a head lowered down. It must be said that this is a characteristic feature of all people with low self-esteem. Straighten your shoulders, lift your head and smile forward - towards a new, brighter future.
Unfortunately, in your society there may be some "well-wisher" who can constantly criticize you, joke over you or, as it is fashionable to say today, "troll". Of course, it is worth paying attention to nadovoy criticism, to adequate jokes and to kindly trolling. But if a person crosses a line, you do not have to endure it. Tell me directly that you do not like it and in the last resort, stop talking with a person. Rather, he himself has enough complexes.
Clearly determine what you do not like for yourself. You, of course, can answer that for everything. But you need to really look at things. If done, then nothing prevents you to lose excess pounds. Go to the doctor, determine the cause of your excess weight. Work on yourself. No one can starve himself or hungry diets. You can eat everything, only in moderation. In addition to proper nutrition, physical exercises will only improve your results. And of course, do not forget to praise yourself for the work done. And also remember that you love yourself the way you are. After a few months you will see the result.
If you have a complaint about your appearance, this does not mean that you can not do without the help of a plastic surgeon. You are already beautiful, but you do not know about it yet. And do not believe in yourself. Do not forget to watch for yourself, because even trite clean well-groomed hair and radiant skin of the face can inspire a certain self-confidence, and in matters of increasing self-esteem, there are no meaningful steps.
And, always be in a good mood, find for yourself a favorite pastime, read books, walk more often in the fresh air, communicate only with pleasant people, eat right, think positively and pull out to yourself everything only the best and wonderful! Learn to rejoice in life, learn to love yourself! At you all will necessarily turn out!