Incomplete families face many difficulties. Basically, these are material difficulties, since instead of both parents the family is forced to provide materially only the mother. Children are especially sensitive to the difference in the material wealth of the family before and after the divorce, and are hard enough to experience this problem, seeing how other children in complete families are better off than them. This affects negatively on the child's psyche, causing him a sense of envy and inferiority.
Pediatricians have long noticed that children who are brought up in single-parent families are more often ill with acute and chronic diseases. First of all, this is due to the fact that the mother is forced to work hard, taking care of the financial situation of the family, putting aside the care for children's health in the background. Statistics show that it is among those who grew up in an incomplete family that there is often a commitment to bad habits, as well as a high probability of death from violence. This is due to the lack of control by the parent. After the divorce, children develop an unconscious anger at their parents, they begin to blame themselves for divorce, they feel a sense of loneliness and anxiety. All this, of course, leads to a decline in school performance, to problems of communication with peers. As we see the numerous problems of children in single-parent families, of course, they require a skilful psychological education.
Psychological education of children in an incomplete family in the first place should be aimed at ensuring that a child in such a family does not feel unloved and lonely. Children are always very sympathetic to love and affection. And a lonely parent who brings up children should always remember this. No gifts will replace the child's communication with the mother, her caresses and understanding. Psychological education of children in an incomplete family also provides some differences in the education of children of different sexes. So, for example, a boy, left after a divorce from his mother, should not feel excessive custody on her part, otherwise a man will grow up from him, unable to make independent decisions and very dependent on a woman. A girl who is left without her father should not blame her father for divorce, otherwise she will be suspicious of all men in her life in the future. The correct psychological education of children in an incomplete family is often hampered by the authoritarian nature of the parent. Such a parent considers proper education to be a strict control over the behavior of his child.
The child grows intimidated, sullen and subsequently he often has psychological problems with other children in the garden or at school. The correct psychological education of children in an incomplete family is also harmed by another manner of parenting - the indifference of parents and the lack of control over children. The parent lets everything go on its own, and if the children become uncontrollable, they always find an excuse for themselves. Psychological education of children in an incomplete family should not allow the formation in the nature of the child of shortcomings caused by the absence of one of the parents. First of all, the child must be respected for the person. Mother, raising children, first of all should gain the authority of children through the example of her behavior and way of life. The peculiarity of the child's psychology is that he unconsciously imitates both good and bad and is always inclined to follow exactly the examples of behavior, not moral teachings. That is why when the psychological education of children in an incomplete family is extremely important constant monitoring of the mother (father) for their behavior and actions. Mother, in order to gain authority from children, must always respect people around them and respect their parents.
She should be ready to always come to the aid of close people who need help. Psychological education of children in an incomplete family also implies that children always respect those who are ready to listen to them at any moment, to understand and come to the rescue. Thus, the psychological education of children in an incomplete family should be given paramount importance. Only in this way, in the absence of one of the parents, children receive a full-fledged education and become adults, beautiful in all respects.