He has an excellent dad!
When it comes to the role of the father in the life of the child, the words "rigidity", "firmness", "organization" come up. Not in vain. Many men confuse the education of sons and daughters with the training of special forces soldiers. Find the right course of behavior will help only ... love.
Be an example
Now you're not just a successful manager or a talented architect. You are a star, an ideal, a perfect image. So the kid sees you. It inspires and gives a feeling of euphoria. But also imposes certain obligations. You are at the sight of two attentive, albeit enthusiastic, eyes. Your actions are evaluated and taken as a model. How you behave with your wife, parents, friends, how you rest, how you eat - the baby does not miss anything.
Looking at you, the little one makes conclusions about what is good and what is bad for raising one child in the family. Therefore, before chiding a child for not leaving the TV (vision spoils), remember: how long do you take your time off the laptop? You forbid the karapuzu to drink soda (and do it right), but during the walk you do not let out a bottle of sweet water from your hands? .. Examples can be given for a long time. It is important to understand that it's better to act correctly, and not just to be limited to the right words.
Talk about the case
The Kid folded a neat slide of details on the table. After looking closely, you found out your mobile phone in it. Opening the diary, I discovered that almost every page is decorated with bright, large abstract drawings. In general, the child has done something that you do not like (although it can not be denied: he is a real talent). Your first reaction for raising one child in the family is to shout, read, forbid, set the framework ... Stop, do not gasp, like a brand-new BMW, think about what the kid actually did wrong. Dismantled the phone? First, hide an expensive thing away. And secondly, the crumb did not pursue the goal of breaking the mobile.
He really wondered how everything in this world is arranged. So cool down, seat a young, technique (or artist-designer) on your knees and talk to him. Do not worry about pathetic questions: "How can you?" And "What have you done?" Explain that adults have things that you can not take (although you really want to). Operate specific concepts, do not raise your voice. You will look - it works great!
Do not hide emotions
"Real men do not cry. They can clench their fists or on their face a little muscle trembling ... "Leave these fantastic images to the heroes of blockbusters. In life, everything is much more complicated. And sometimes it's more difficult to show your emotions than to hide them deeper. But you learn. And bring up emotionality. If the child is nakrolesil, explain that you are very upset and offended because of this. Believe me, in the future the baby will think five times before doing something that upsets the pope. This is much more effective than any "march in the corner" or "no cartoons." And do not forget to praise for the fact that the crumb has corrected his mistakes. After all, justice is not a synonym for rigidity. She directs all your tender feelings towards a single goal: to raise a happy, harmonious, full-fledged child ... a future parent. The father should be directly involved in the education of one child in the family, as the head and leader of the family.
In a new way
Try to exclude from your vocabulary phrases: "I was brought up like this, and nothing, a man grew up," "Do not revile - you are a man!", "Here I am in your years ..." All this husks are replaced with important: "I love you!" , "You are the best for me!" Parenting for the child is lessons, so these lessons should be right and fair.