Let's take a closer look: are there any advantages to the severe education of children with a belt, or is it only a negative experience that parents either should not resort to at all, or use extremely rarely.
Parents, in the first place, you need to remember one thing: a belt you will not kill the truth in the ass of your child. You just convince him once again that in this world only physical force dictates the rules.
In principle, if we consider severe education as an integral set of behavior and actions of parents - then this is quite normal. That's why it's upbringing to direct and somewhere to lead, to push their children to something right, necessary.
Although, if you think about it, we all, parents, want to raise their children so that they are exactly like us. This desire is almost unconscious, it is laid somewhere on the subcortex and it is it dictates to us how to raise a child.
All our thoughts and behaviors have been coming from childhood. Someone - from parents, from others - from grandparents, and still others absorbed the characters and lines of behavior of some heroes, perhaps even fairy. The choice of children about who they want to inherit, who they want to imitate, depends entirely on the degree of authority of this or that person. And if the present parent was deeply offended in his deep childhood, suppressed him and punished excessively severely, then he will carry in the subconscious mind the idea that such upbringing is the right thing, even if it is severe and merciless.
Psychologists are sure that when children are too close and closely acquainted with the strap, this greatly affects their psyche and further simulates their attitude towards cruelty and violence. And the more often they see that this cruelty comes from parents, closest and dearest people, the easier it is for him to end up with him. Aggression becomes an integral component of their life, they carry its seeds into adulthood, and from this often other people suffer later.
So, let's define how severe and strict upbringing can affect the further nature of your child.
Option one, aggressive
Children are different. Some of them silently demolish all grievances and punishments, stand in a corner, without stirring, and only look like tears when they are beaten with a belt. And others have a more violent and willful disposition, they do not agree with punishments, they protest and try, as it were, to take revenge on parents who punish them. For example, run up and hit that there is urine. As you can see, already in childhood they manifest aggression - and this trait will only develop rapidly over the years if you continue your cult of constant physical violence.
Most often, the aggression of these children is transferred to other children. They are very difficult in the kindergarten and school, they react very sharply in those cases when something goes wrong, as they themselves desire. Parental genes are awakened here. If a child, for example, was forbidden to touch the daddy's set of tools, without giving any reasoning for this prohibition, but severely punishing him with a belt for his violation, then the kid will transfer this behavior to his life. And when any child tries to take from him some toy, he will react lightning fast and, most likely, will hit or push the baby.
Therefore, if you are a supporter of harsh education, before grabbing the belt in all cases, first look at the child - maybe he still showed signs of aggression from birth? If so - do not aggravate, do not take root this character trait, as it will prevent your child from following the life.
Option two, revengeful
This, perhaps, is the most difficult case of the influence of frequent punishments of children in early childhood. If in the first variant the child projected the aggressive behavior of his parents to weaker or at least equal to him - that is, his peers, then in this case everything is somewhat more complicated.
It is very bad and dangerous when the child's anger at frequent and, in his opinion, absolutely groundless punishments, is transferred to the abusers, that is, directly to the parents themselves. This can result in uncontrolled outbursts of anger directed at the father or mother, or both at once. All because from childhood the child's opinion is formed that his family are enemies who constantly try to hurt and humiliate him (and these feelings are especially painful for children).
And one day, someday, there will come a time when the child will raise his hand to those who raised him so severely. Raises to avenge all the atrocities that, as he thought all his life, his parents caused him. He can take revenge very sadistically, no matter how horrible it may sound. And all because his relatives brought him up in an atmosphere of constant pokes and punishments for any, even the most ridiculous and petty offense.
Option three, understanding
And yet among the children there are those who, despite the cruel treatment of their parents, still manage to carry through the difficult childhood the thought that all violence is evil. And they strengthened in this thought because of groundless cruelty of parents who did not know the method of a carrot and a carrot and brought up only belts, generously weighing blows for any childish prank. Children realize a little later that Mom and Dad did not want to harm them, that they were just trying to convey the truth to them, even in such a cruel way.
They will analyze the actions of adults and come to the conclusion that they will never allow such mistakes. And the relationship with older parents will still be smooth and warm, because they will not hold on to them evil, and only try to find an excuse for them and prove to themselves that it was strict education that made them such solid people.
Of course, these are just the main options for what can be done with children with a belt, and the third of them is extremely rare. It has been proved that children who are raised on constant violence, cultivate and perpetrate this violence further in life, directing it to all spheres of their life activity. Only those parents who never think about the future of their children, about their rotation in society, can abuse the belt as a punishment and apply it and other methods of force whenever the kid breaks some kind of a rule invented by the parents, some rule.
Remember, only on us depends on who our children will be in the near future, believe me, the future. Will they be philanthropists, who seek to help their neighbor, or will they look at the world with evil, injured eyes and be regarded as asocial and misanthrope? What future do you want for your child?
No, it can not be said that a belt is always bad, in small doses and for really important cases, you can arm yourself if they have already tried all the peaceful methods and methods of punishing the baby. But in everything you need to know the measure, know how to not only scold where the child stumbled, but also from the soul to praise him where he excelled. Such a balance of rigor and tenderness will ensure and excellent education, and will not harden the child.