In search of absolute happiness
Legend is a legend, but, truth, life is much more severe. A man, being in bed with a nymphomaniac, comes to exhaustion. At the same time, his satisfaction does not concern her. Nymphomaniac is focused on itself. She needs often and a lot, but to the finish line she can not run. Orgasm for her is an unattainable pleasure. It's like an oasis in the desert, to which you all go and go, and then it turns out that it really is not. And you continue your journey through the wilderness, endless and aimless.
My friend had a friend, a girl of 20 years. She boasted that she went out into the street, "clings muzhiks" and drags them to her home. It is curious that the mood of this young lady has always been excellent: euphoria, a state of complete bliss. "I'm the most intelligent, beautiful, sexy!" - she claimed ... Such patients are often brought to the doctor by relatives. They themselves do not understand what is going wrong with them.
"Pathological sexual desire in the form of nymphomania (in men - satyriasis) can arise due to hormonal disorders in the early stages of dementia (dementia), but more often than not it is one of the manifestations of manic-depressive psychosis," says sexologist Georgy Selyukov, at which the emotional sphere is painfully changing. Such patients are impatient, intervene, without any initiative of the other they come in contact, they like to talk about their sexual "exploits.
In sexual and family life, nymphomaniac women eat a lot, feel a constant surge of energy and excessive sexual desire, which they seek to satisfy anywhere and with anyone. They are not able to control themselves and the surrounding reality.
Nymphomaniacs think that they are absolutely happy. Happiness for them is an endless run, searching for unattainable pleasure, which they seek to receive exceptional satisfaction.
People with deep hysterical disorder, as a rule, are infantile. They have an inner fear of emotional rapprochement, they do not want to take responsibility for the fate of another person. Sex obscures everything. I always feel sorry for them - I know how they will feel when they are cured and can soberly assess their actions. By the way, after recovering, a woman can again experience orgasm, get satisfaction from sex, from food, from life in general.
The disorder in the form of circular phases of the pathological mood (manic-depressive) is much more serious and more severe, therefore it is treated medically, and, as a rule, in a hospital. It is in the stage of mania that patients can exhibit hypersexuality.
What can the therapist help during the rehabilitation period? First of all, to explain: it is impossible for a person to be accused of being ill (by the way, manic-depressive disorders are genetically conditioned). Are you guilty, for example, that you have caught the flu, cough and sneeze? In this case, the sexual need can be compared to an uncontrolled involuntary cough.
Vicious contacts
Nymphomaniacs are sometimes called those who lead a promiscuous sex life and ignore all moral attitudes and prescriptions. In fact, these women are perfectly healthy - they are aware of their actions, which are always motivated. For example, a woman wants to make a career - and breaks "through thorns to the stars" thanks to the bed. In the press and the Internet, you can read a lot of revelations of the stars, where they, savoring the details, described sex with the producers.
Or, say, a woman was raped or sexually abused. Such stress can cause either vaginismus (a convulsive painful contraction of the muscles of the vagina and perineum that occurs when trying to introduce a penis) or, on the contrary, a completely polar reaction like "I will prove to myself the worthlessness of all men!" Such a person has many lovers whom she quickly throws.
It is important to distinguish between nymphomania and the strong sexual constitution that a person is endowed with from birth. One woman is enough for one sexual intercourse per year, while for others, several orgasms a day are needed. Women with a very strong sexual constitution can experience orgasm from the age of three, fidgeting in a chair. And this does not mean that they are sick. They just have a high level of libido.
Naturally, sexual energy, the peak of which in women is usually reached by the age of thirty, must be disposed of somewhere.
"We go" in childhood
The constant change of partners sometimes indicates a desire to assert itself and increase self-esteem. A woman really seems that in this way she acquires self-confidence. But this is just an illusion. As a substitute for coffee: it tastes like coffee, but without caffeine. Self-esteem is enhanced first and foremost by full-fledged relationships with a loving man.
When such a woman comes to me, first of all, I ask what she feels right now. As a rule, shame, the desire to change, and most importantly - guilt. But to whom specifically? Here, a woman will probably say about wine to her parents, I affirm this, based on my experience as a psychotherapist. And then you should immerse yourself in her childhood, delve into the teenage complexes. What kind of relationship did she have with her parents? The answer to this question will help to find out: why does she need 20 lovers, although in general one loving man is enough? And a woman needs to recognize and love herself for who she is. In general, its foundation is laid in childhood in the parents' house.
Up to four years the girl is in my mother's psychological, biological, spiritual field. From four to eight - in the field of both parents. After eight, my father is very important. Mom during this period performs the role of mentor, the girl will imitate her, copy. And the father gives the daughter a feedback: how much admiration she will read. If the father criticizes her: "How did you make up? What kind of clothes did you put on? ", And the mother scolds for any manifestation of sexuality:" Sit at home, not for that I raised you so that you would spend time on some Vasya! "Or" You're in this mini-skirt, ! "- the girl has a low self-esteem. One of my friends, who has an unusually absurd character, somehow confessed: "I spent all my childhood thinking myself ugly, I was ashamed to even go out. And now ... You know, I do not even remember the name of my second man. Oh, how many of them there were! "
The personalities of the hysterical warehouse are terrible dreamers and liars. Insecurity and psychological infantilism do not allow them to resist.
When such a woman comes to me, first of all, I ask what she feels right now. As a rule, shame, the desire to change, and most importantly - guilt. But to whom specifically? Here, a woman will probably say about wine to her parents, I affirm this, based on my experience as a psychotherapist. And then you should immerse yourself in her childhood, delve into the teenage complexes. What kind of relationship did she have with her parents? The answer to this question will help to find out: why does she need 20 lovers, although in general one loving man is enough? And a woman needs to recognize and love herself for who she is. When you manage to love yourself, you might really be able to love another.