Sometimes you start a romance, just not to be alone. Next to you is an occasional person who, albeit sympathetic to you, but you notice that his unsuccessful haircut, then the annoying manner of twisting a cigarette or eating sushi. And then, after a while, you realize that your novel is an illusion, not more.
In the footsteps of Bridget Jones.
Do you remember this bright heroine? Think about whether you have something in common. Perhaps your whole life is filled with nothing but the expectation of a future love? If you think that without a couple do not make a career, hair, cleaning, then stop, maybe you miss something important.
Is a man really the only dream and the only incentive to move on and develop? Are you sure that with the advent of your loved one, disappear all the problems, the career will develop by itself, the hair will stop hanging, the girlfriend and the boss grieve, and the dust accumulate in the corners? In fact, the problem is not that you do not have a man, but that you do not want to be responsible for your life.
Do not pay attention to advertising and products created for couples, go to interesting exhibitions and parties, even if the invitation is issued for two persons, do not be afraid to go to the cinema alone. Overcome your fear of yourself and the fear that someone else's opinion of you can be a condemnator. Learn to enjoy life, whether you are in love or not.
Just like others.
You yourself noticed that with years of unmarried girlfriends almost no left, and you suddenly became a black sheep. But your observations were only reinforced by the first hints of my mother and relatives that it would be time for you to settle down and get married. A few more years and parents will openly demand grandchildren, and friends compassionately take you to family dinners in the hope of marrying a boring colleague of her husband.
Do not hide and do not leave an answer when someone is interested in your personal life. Remember, it's generally no one but you does not. To all the rest, you can quite sincerely respond that everything is fine, especially if you are happy with yourself.
Do not push too feminist thoughts. It looks pathetic when a lonely girl who actually wants to get married suddenly starts to argue that men do not need a modern woman at all.
And do not try to re-educate your parents. They will not stop baking about your happiness, just pretend that you are also interested in making them happy as soon as possible with their grandsons. Even if this is not part of your immediate plans, you can make your parents happy.
Just in case.
Do not you recognize yourself in a girl who is not in love, does not treat anyone seriously, but keeps someone in reserve? With one, you sometimes go to the movies, sometimes you show your girlfriends or mother to another, you drag the third one to the shops or parties. Each of them is sure that your relationship is about to become closer, and you think that it is not necessary to clarify relations and complicate things.
Get rid of this cloud of useless fans. Spend at least one weekend alone with yourself, with friends or relatives. Be honest with yourself - if you remember about a man only when you receive an invitation to an event for two persons, then you do not need him. And remember - it's not good to use people, because next time your sincere feelings can be used by someone else, then you will feel yourself in the shoes of your boyfriends.
In principle, now the society is rather loyal with regard to casual sexual relations. It happens to everyone? Random weakness is forgivable. But casual relationships are still something strange, which should not be in our life. True love brings people together, casual relationships and relationships with the distance. Notice, do not you have a feeling that you are kissing your temporary chevalier as if through a glass or a film? Where are the sparks and passion? Think, maybe you deserve more.