How to learn to be a good companion?

Communication is one of the key concepts that underlie the definition of "man." It is through communication that we are so different from the animals around us. Because of the ability to talk and build long and focused proposals, we can express our attitude to other people, ask for help, and help. In the end, without communication, we could not even confess our love to our dear man.

However, despite the fact that most people are able to speak, unfortunately, not all of us are able to be interesting interlocutors with whom other people would like to spend hours of free time, just to hear the next phrase from our lips. So how can we become great orators who can manipulate, make laugh and just fall in love with the audience with just a few right words?

Strangely enough, it is very easy to become an eloquent rhetorician, despite the fact that it will take more than one year to achieve mastery in this craft. At the heart of what is interesting to people around you, above all, is the notion of "surprise". Yes, it is because of the ability to surprise listeners with each following sentence and we are becoming interesting and, in a sense, attractive speakers. For example, would it be interesting to watch tricks when you perfectly know how each piece of the trick is done and what to expect in the final of the next magical act? Of course not! The same is true of the ability to speak - you can consider yourself an arbitrarily cheerful person, but if you tell the same jokes every day that you read in the book "101 the funniest joke", no one will smile, but just go listen to a lecture , for example, over rudimentary reflexes or quantum physics in the life of an ordinary person.

The second most important lesson to be learned before starting to dream of becoming a great rhetoric is that you should never try to talk about things that you do not know. It is possible that you do not have in-depth knowledge, no matter what, except one. So try to surprise people with what you know on this issue, and do not look for universal recognition, supporting communication on topics that you just heard in your life for the first time. Many people ask how to act at a time when the topic, to a certain and understandable to you, can not be changed, just as you can not just remain silent. The answer, as always, is simple - self-criticism will help you. Simply put, if you are confronted with a situation when you are forced to support a conversation about something that you do not know, try to use your ignorance and instead of asking questions to others about the topic, you can even try to use your cunning and ask the interlocutors something, then this on this topic, that they will have to think about and long to try to find an answer, than you can give a little acuity, but also an interestingness to your communication. If you can not do this, you can simply translate the question posed to you, in the form of a joke to any other person in your group.

And, finally, the third most important skill that any more or less popular speaker in the society possesses is boldness and the absence of excessive modesty. Always remember that when you say something, you say words, phrases and whole sentences to the same people as yourself, who can just get up and start talking so that they will quickly forget about you and you will be forced to sit on the sidelines and quietly sip tea, while some Vasya Petrov from the plant will amuse and amuse the surrounding, as well as amaze them with the facts about some machine. Therefore, it is extremely important to remember that as soon as you open your mouth and pronounce the first sound - from now on you become a king of triumph and it's up to you how long it will take before you are deposed. And how should the king rule? Correctly - loudly, clearly, multifaceted, intelligent, and most importantly - fairly. Proceeding from this, we formulate the formula for ideal rhetoric: good rhetoric = loud and clear speech + cultural, unexpected and interesting suggestions to others.

Finally I would like to note that the main thing is not afraid to talk and express your personal opinion, because people who are only able to agree with others have never loved, and will not love. Even if your opinion completely contradicts the thoughts of others - express everything as you think, and then you will, at least, be respected for your courage to go against others, and if you "demonstrate" your contradictory opinion with the help of a remarkably delivered speech, then the interlocutors will not say anything bad at all, but only thank you for the wonderful moments during which they listened to this magnificent, eloquent speech.