remains unresolved and eventually grows into a question: "to save an unhappy marriage or divorce better?".
Joint life is hard work. It is necessary to approach with all responsibility to the solution of such questions. Of course, in the first place, it is necessary to find out what the second half thinks about this. Try to understand the situation together. It is possible that your spouse is experiencing some kind of internal crisis, maybe he has health problems or with work. Hence, there may be isolation, irritability, bad mood. Some people are not inclined to share their experiences, which others perceive as personal dislike. Be careful with your half, and then, perhaps, the problem of maintaining an unhappy marriage or divorce will fall away by itself. Still, the time lived together is not the worst period in your life?
For some, an unhappy marriage is a kind of fetters, a "yoke on the neck." Then, really, it is worth considering whether you need to continue this relationship. A voluntary union of two free people has a much greater chance of a longer existence than a marriage of convenience or necessity. But this situation is not hopeless either. If both sides can find positive moments, or benefit for themselves in this union, then divorce, as a way of solving the problem, will seem not quite the right way out of this situation. In the end, you can come to a mutually beneficial consensus. There are people, most often men who need to feel free. They must be sure that they can leave at any time if they wish. And it is this confidence that keeps them close to the spouse. It is difficult to live with such people, but it is interesting. There is always a certain amount of adrenaline, and the illusion of novelty. If you understand, this is also a good way to save the marriage.
It is clear that over time the sharpness of feelings and perceptions from the closeness of a loved one is dulled. Household problems destroy the romantic mood, everyday routine muffles the freshness of emotions. That's when the time comes when both spouses are very lacking in novelty. There is a desire to plunge into the beautiful mist of flirting and romance again. It's kind of a test of your marriage. Whether you will understand each other, will you meet, or wall yourself off from your half with a wall of indifference and begin to live your own life. Until, finally, do not decide that it's better to divorce, to once again plunge into the sea of pleasures of a free life. And why do I need to spend time looking for new experiences? Look close to you already have a person whom you have studied well enough. You know what you can expect from him, you know his habits, weaknesses, tastes. Try to play on it. Change yourself, change the environment, change the image. Gradually, your partner will be drawn into the game you started. With surprise, you will discover his new qualities, which were not even suspected. Not only will you be well rested and entertained, you will be able to avoid divorce, save what is so dear to both of you. This is much more useful than starting from scratch.
Preservation of marriage is the business of both spouses. We need to soberly assess the current situation. Of course, there are cases when an unhappy marriage is not worth saving. It all depends on the people themselves. Before deciding to act, a little seven times to measure. Sometimes you just need to take a break from each other, for a while, to weigh everything. It is not necessary for this to live in different places. You can just try to translate the relationship into a friendly wave. Stop being angry with each other, making claims. We do not notice that we pay attention to carrier trifles. Gradually accumulating, this pettiness can become the very worm, imperceptibly devouring the beautiful apple of love from within. Try to be kinder to each other, and maybe not everything is lost, something made you once choose from all this particular person.