Self-esteem is extremely important for a person of any age. After all, if self-esteem is understated, the individual begins to appear complexes that affect his general psychological state. Especially greatly lowering self-esteem affects the life of a teenager. At that age, when a person only starts to face the harsh realities of the world, its role is extremely important. That is why it is always necessary to pay attention to how society affects a teenager, does not oppress him.
In the life of adolescents, a very important role is played by the opinions and views of others, their actions towards him. Unfortunately, not all parents understand that self-esteem and its role in the self-education of a teenager is the key. If there are problems with self-esteem and its role in self-education of adolescents, it is possible that at a more mature age a person may have problems with self-awareness, relationships with the opposite sex and many others. That's why it's always necessary to pay attention to how a teenager treats himself, whether he can defend his opinion and fight against attacks by a peer.
Adequate assessment of adolescents by others
In order for a teenager to have a normal self-esteem, above all he must grow among people who adequately assess his capabilities, can not only praise for achievements, but also sensibly criticize for failures. It is worth noting that some parents make mistakes when they begin to raise the achievements of their child and not notice mistakes. In this case, he begins to overestimate the self-esteem, he ceases to perceive the criticism normally, considers himself the most important person. Of course, such behavior repels people and thus a person subsequently suffers from his own selfishness. However, if you notice that your child often skips thoughts that he is bad, wrong, does not know how, and so on, in this case you need to try to understand what exactly is the reason for lowering self-esteem.
The role of the teacher
An important role in the life of every teenager is played by the school. It is there that children communicate most with each other, compete, learn basic social skills. However, unfortunately, not all teachers understand how important is their ability to properly treat children, to teach their sciences while not degrading their dignity. That's why many teenagers start to lose self-esteem because teachers criticize them, point out their blunders for the whole class, thus subjecting the classmates to ridicule. In this case, many parents go to school to talk with the teacher. However, as practice shows, adolescents perceive such behavior of the mother or father "with bayonets." This is not surprising, because teenagers need to feel independent and show this independence to each other. And if a mother or father appears at the doorstep of the school, they think that others will stop taking them seriously, because parents treat them like little ones. Therefore, you need to go to school only as a last resort, when you understand that the child can not resist the teacher in any way, and the latter, in turn, does not understand how important his words are in the self-assertion of the teenager. First try to help your child on their own. If you see that he really is not given this or that thing - do not put pressure on him. Explain to your son or daughter that no one will love him less if he does not understand algebra or chemistry. And suggest focusing on what is really interesting to him. Let him achieve some results in sports, draws, writes poetry and prose. If a teenager becomes something better, he will not be bothered by the attacks of the teacher, and classmates will be respected for other achievements.
Well, in case when teenagers are attacked by peers, it is necessary to teach them to defend themselves. And not always just a word. Of course, diplomacy is the best way to solve problems, but not in the teenage world. There it is necessary to be able to defend yourself and defend your rightness in any way. Therefore, explain to a teenager that he can do this, he thinks it necessary, but only if he is right, not his opponent.