Leave the man a personal space
The lion's share of quarrels among married couples arises due to excessive control by one partner and insufficient attention from the other. As a rule, a man suffers from excessive custody of his beloved, and a woman takes offense when she does not get every minute from her half. Girls feel lack of attention, like a lack of love.
He and she differently perceive family relationships. Regardless of the strength of feelings for you, a man will never want to refuse to sit around with friends and go to soccer. Women, on the contrary, tend to rush into relations with the head, forget about friends and entertainment, where the beloved does not participate. Because of this, painful dissonance arises.
The first golden rule: to avoid problems - slow down with tutelage. Do not concentrate on your man 24 hours a day, better find yourself two or three hobbies that will take your free time. While your husband is sitting in a bar with friends, you go to sports, to a beauty salon, meet your girlfriends, sign up for refresher courses, trainings ... So you not only leave a man several hours a day of free time without your calls and sms, but also will improve yourself externally and internally. Believe me, a man will never want to lose a beautiful self-sufficient woman.
Support it
Relationships need balance and harmony, so do not rush into extremes. We have convinced you that you do not need to over-patronize your man? Excellent, but do not forget to call (not often, enough once a day!) And wonder how he is doing and does he want to make you a company, for example, in the gym? Now - you are equal partners, halves of one whole. Ask about his victories and failures and, if necessary, support. Men will never share their failures with friends, which is why sometimes they need their beloved's help.
The second golden rule: be close to your beloved in moments of victories and defeats. Men will never want to lose a girl who understands them and accepts them as they are.
Remain attractive
Many women after marriage stop paying enough time to take care of themselves. Remember yourself at a time when you wanted to attract the attention of your chosen one. How many new dresses and blouses have appeared in your wardrobe? Surely almost every day you did the styling in a hairdresser, put on heels, sacrificing convenience for the sake of beauty? If you are still standing in front of a mirror every day for an hour, you should not worry, but if the time you used to take care of yourself goes to washing, ironing and "rum women" - slow down. Rethink your daily routine. A man, of course, will appreciate care, but he, first of all, wants to see you as beautiful as before.
The third golden rule: Be always with stylish make-up and perfect manicure. A beautiful woman will be afraid to lose a man.
Do not be jealous!
Women sometimes over-romanticize jealousy directed towards one's own side, believing this to be a proof of love. At the same time, a man can be terrorized for a long time and persistently, if jealousy has to be experienced by him. Neither one does not help build relationships. Deciding to provoke a guy into jealousy, be prepared for the most unexpected consequences. Some men can become angry, others will think you are frivolous, and still others will find jealousy a proof of disregard for themselves. It is better not to joke with jealousy.
Unlike women, all men, without exception, despise such a manifestation of love and are irritated if the beloved woman turns out to be jealous.
Psychologists say that most often the cause of jealousy is insecurity. That's why a woman feels that her man is about to find someone better and starts playing detective.
The fourth golden rule: concentrate on yourself, visit so many cosmetic procedures, so much you will need in order to feel the most beautiful. And jealousy will go away.
Let him feel needed
Every man wants to show the other half what he is necessary and good. You can play along to his noble aspirations and from time to time ask for small, and not very, services. If a man is well versed in the technique, call him to repair the toaster. If you call a master at home, then your young man can take it as an insult to dignity. Therefore, before anything is done, tell him about the problem, let the lover decide whether he will cope on his own or need help.
If your half does not have enough skills to solve the problem, do not say to him: "you are a man ..." Your young man can be a professional in one case, but do not understand the other. And this is normal, because we are all people. Remember, reproaches of this type make a man feel weak. In response, you can get even more painful attack, because you will touch his male ego.
The fifth golden rule: be smarter and use the strengths of a loved one, tactfully silent about the weak! Compromise relations, as a rule, are the most persistent and durable. Men are afraid of losing a woman with whom they feel strong and courageous.
Be aware of the financial issue
Another sick place of many men is financial well-being. Criticism of his work, wages, reproaches regarding the cost of gifts and the like often lead to a complete collapse of relations.
The sixth golden rule: refrain from criticizing the financial situation of your chosen one. If you are not satisfied with his income, then discuss on the family council how you can improve your well-being. A man will never want to lose a woman who knows that money is much cheaper than love.
Do not be dissatisfied with resentment and anger
Restoring the former warmth in communication is difficult even after several days of mutual insults, not to mention longer quarrels. Straight relations are the key to success and harmony.
The seventh golden rule: if you love your chosen one, then learn to take it, rather than the idealized image that you drew in your head in those months when he was courting you. A man will appreciate it and will be afraid of losing you.