After such a joyful event as the birth of a child, changes occur in all spheres of family life. Is not an exception and sexual. First of all, it is connected with the state of health of a woman after pregnancy, a change in her emotional and physiological state. Childbirth is a huge stress for the body. For every future mother, pregnancy and childbirth take place in different ways, and therefore, talk about specific dates when you can, but when you can not have sex you should not. Sex after the birth of the child is individual and if you do not want to undermine your health, then consult a doctor.
Many factors affect the restoration of sexual activity after the birth of a child. For example, how the pregnancy went, whether there were complications, if there were any gaps in the perineum, how the woman feels after the delivery, whether something is bothering her or not, and so on.
If pregnancy and childbirth have gone without complications and mom's well-being, then after about 1-1.5 months the uterus will be cleared of blood and restored. As a result of its reduction, new tissues form and heal all wounds (for example, the place where the placenta was attached).
Doctors advise to refrain from sexual intercourse for the following reasons:
The internal genitalia, the fallopian tubes and the uterus itself are especially vulnerable in the postpartum period and are sensitive to various infections that can be brought on by sexual contact.
They can open healing wounds and begin to bleed profusely, because blood vessels are badly affected during childbirth.
It should be remembered that, all of the above conditions apply if the birth was normal, without complications. In difficult births, the recovery period is increased by the amount of time that the body will need to start functioning normally. And, when you feel your readiness to resume sexual activity, be sure to consult a gynecologist. He will give you tips that will help you adapt to the changes that have occurred with your body.
Many women say they have difficulty in having sex for three months after giving birth. Painful sensations, and sometimes very severe pain, prevent them from fully enjoying the pleasures of an important process, like sex after the birth of the baby, and they perceive the performance of "conjugal duty" as a heavy duty.
Discomfort and discomfort during sex can be caused by different reasons.
First of all, the physiological state of a woman changes. After childbirth, ruptures of the perineum may occur, but then the seams are applied, as a result, the skin around them becomes more sensitive and the pain is felt more sharply than before. In addition, postures that you used earlier for your own satisfaction can now cause painful sensations, since when restoring the tissue after rupture, the nerve endings in the vaginal mucosa may accidentally be jammed. It should not be frightened, it is just necessary to approach more sensibly and deliberately to this issue. Also, you can use a variety of ointments that reduce pain. For example, "Solcoseril", "Kontratubeks."
The vagina itself changes.
It is greatly stretched, and this can prevent a woman from achieving orgasm. Although, here the main role is played by the psychological attitude. If you adjust yourself to not feeling a penis, you really will not feel it. Among women in labor there is an opinion that the vagina, stretching just to an incredible size, will remain so. This, of course, is a delusion. Everything will return to normal, you just have to wait a little.
You may not feel those feelings during the process, whose name is sex after the baby, rather his birth, as before pregnancy. This can be close, both to women and men, because the vagina becomes more sluggish and less elastic. But if you do exercises for the muscles of the vagina during pregnancy and after childbirth, then this problem will not touch you very much.
On the other hand, the psychological state of a woman plays a huge role. She must herself feel that she is ready and wants to have sex again, otherwise, actions contrary to her desires will bring even more problems. Many women argue that after the birth of their sex life did not fade, but on the contrary became brighter.
And finally, we want to give a few tips that will help you quickly come back to normal after the birth of a child.
During pregnancy and after childbirth, perform exercises aimed at the muscles of the perineum. World-famous Kegel exercises are ideal.
Practice oral-genital sex, give time to your genitals to bounce back.
Make variety in your sex life, use new poses, fantasize.
Plan ahead for sex. Ask someone from the family to sit with the child, but, themselves, in the free time, make love.
Conduct confidential conversations, speak about feelings with the partner.