Sex on the first date: how to refuse a man, so as not to spoil relations

What will you do if a man offers you sex on a first date? In most cases, the woman's first reaction is a sharp rebuff and resentment that she was mistaken for an easily accessible lady. To get out of the situation with dignity and not to hurt men's pride will help properly cited arguments. How can you explain clearly to a man why you do not want to have sex on a first date?

What to say

1. It's right to say that you are not ready now. Just do not go into long reasoning, formulate thoughts concisely. From the question "When?" It is better to avoid, otherwise the man mentally put a tick for this period. And he will remember you this necessarily.
2. Explain that this is your principle. The argued position will not cause irritation and will not alienate the gentleman. On the contrary, men respect other people's principles and ability to defend their interests. It is unnecessary to exaggerate this topic, since it is bordered by a dangerous topic of feminism. And talk about their own independence is not suitable for the first date.
3. Pretend that you do not understand his hints and translate the conversation into other topics. This is the simplest way to avoid embarrassing explanations. A tactful man himself will understand that now is not the time. If he continues to insist on intimacy, finish the date (tell me straight out that it's time for you to leave). If you have questions, use tips 1 or 2.

What to say is not worth it

Even indirectly, do not associate your refusal with a particular man. A common mistake is a sentence like "I do not feel anything for you", "I'm not sure about you", "I'm not being attracted to you yet," etc. Such an attempt at a frank conversation will hurt a man and can hurt his self-esteem. The best way to avoid talking about sex on a right date is not to create a delicate situation (not to be alone in a closed room, not to behave provocatively). But if this is the case, avoid the phrases as counter-arguments:

• "Today I have these" these days "- men have long ceased to believe this popular excuse;
• "I'm not so educated" - a banal and unconvincing formulation of the refusal, after which it is difficult to come up with a logical continuation;
• "You only need this" - a very irritating phrase for men, forget about it forever.